Not everybody is going to like you, and you know that? I accept that. We live in a world where there are so many people living to please others. So many people go out of their way to make others happy. We often forget that actually our purpose is not to serve others or be liked by others. If you’re a person who follows a faith or a God then you know that you have a purpose set before you by your creator. We all have a purpose and one of them is not to make sure that other people like us.
I’m sure we can all relate to the High school tale of a school bully who picks on you for no reason. Or the one colleague at work who has an issue with you because you got promoted and they didn’t. As I have grown into an adult, I slowly started to realise the reality. Not everybody is going to like you. And quite frankly I don’t want everyone to like me. Alot of the time we seek approval from others, and thats where our confidence tends to lie. Which we all know isn’t where it should come from.
THEIR ISSUE IS THEIR ISSUE
As I have gotten older I have slowly started to realise that a lot of the time when people don’t like you, it says more about them than you. People often project their feelings about themselves onto other people. If someone is unhappy in their own appearance, they tend to pick on others for the way they look. Its really crazy how the brain works, because a lot of the time people do this without realising.
It’s not the best feeling to find out someone doesn’t like you, but its not up to you to figure it out either. You can begin to feel guilty or worried, thinking about why they might not like you and what you did. Let it go. Holding onto it does you no good in the long run.
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IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU
In life it’s not your job to make people like you. Often times their issue is their issue. You were not put on this earth to make people like you. The people in your life, like you for you. You should never change for others. This is something that can take a really long time to realise and its something I have battled with in the past.
Realising this though, brings so much freedom to life. It stops the questioning of yourself, or the feeling of needing to change. Once you fully become comfortable in who you are, you no longer seem to care about the opinions of others. It’s really a freeing feeling.
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There is certainty that in life, people wont like you just because you are you. But that doesn’t mean you should change the way you act or how you are. Continue being yourself. Your tribe and the people who are meant to be in your life will naturally gravitate towards you. It wont need to be forced. Friendships and relationships that are meant for you will be easy. It won’t take guess work and trying to figure out if people like you or not. You will know.
So, be who you are and who you were created to be. Don’t ever change for anyone.