Letting go and holding onto things that are not longer for us, can be draining emotionally and physically. I’ve been through this so many times when it comes to friendships, relationships, job promotions, you name it. Its funny because we often realise and know its no longer for us, yet we hold onto it with everything we have inside of us. We try to make it work, because we think it’s what is meant for us. When reality is, if everything around is you telling you it’s not for you. Then it’s probably not for you. I don’t know what it is that you’re holding onto, but I am right there with you.
It’s funny because when I go back and look at previous blog posts, I see stories of different times in my life. You wouldn’t ever know that as a reader. But actually my blog posts are somewhat a diary of events that have happened in my life. And this post is no different. For so many years I feel like I’ve held onto people, hopes and dreams that I thought would pan out the way I intended for them to. And really, holding onto what I knew wouldn’t last did nothing but make it worse for me in the end.
HOLDING ON HURTS YOU
Theres an image I have seen all over the internet, and its an image of a hand holding a piece of rope. The person desperately trying to hold on to whatever is on the other end. And in the image you can see how the rope is cutting into the persons hand, and making them bleed and get sore. Isn’t that such a great analogy of what its like when we try to hold onto things? In the end it actually causes us more damage and hurt than it would have if we just let go.
Remember that, the next time you’re trying to hold onto something you know you need to let go of. It will hurt and cut you more holding onto it, than letting go.
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IT WILL BE HARD, BUT WORTH IT
I think in any situation when you need to let go of something, you have to come to the decision yourself. Nobody else can tell you when the time is right or what you should do. It’s a decision you know you have to make. And it’s up to you to make it. There is nothing more upsetting than seeing a loved one go through something and knowing what they need to do, but them having to decide it themselves.
Change in any sense can be difficult to process. Nobody said it would be easy, but remember I told you it would be worth it.
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IT MIGHT BE THE MAKING OF YOU
How many times in life have you dreaded a new change? Or something being different? And you really wished you could go back to the way it was and have nothing change. But then, once it’s over and the change is done, its actually the best thing thats ever happened to you. I’ll raise my hand, because this has happened so many times to me. It’s usually the fear of letting go that we hate so much as people. The fear of the unknown. And thats what leads us to stay in abusive relationships/friendships or stay holding onto something that no longer has a place in our lives. The freedom and joy you feel after getting rid of the rubbish in your life is worth it, 10 times over.
Change is scary, but anything worth doing in life is scary.
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Do you struggle to let go of things in your life? What advice could you share with us?
I don’t know your individual circumstance. I don’t know what it is you’re holding onto. But remember that holding on so tight to something thats too heavy for you. Will only lead in you being damaged and hurt by it.