It’s so easy to hold a grudge and it’s so hard to let go of it. I’m still learning on how to do that myself. It’s easy for me to sit here and say “let it go” but I don’t know what it is you’re holding onto. It might be big, it might be small. But all I know is that holding onto hurt only hurts you more. Join me as I go through some tips that help me when I feel like I need to let go of hurt.
EMBRACE YOUR EMOTIONS
When we feel as though we have been hurt by somebody it brings a lot of different emotions. Anger, resentment, sadness to just name a few. It’s okay to feel these feelings, they are natural and human after all. I have learnt that feeling the feeling is the best way to get through them. Shying away from my feelings just bottles things up and doesn’t do any good.
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IT’S OKAY IF YOU CAN’T FORGIVE STRAIGHT AWAY
Letting go of a grudge and letting go of hurt doesn’t mean that you have to forgive immediately. Forgiveness can take a lot of time. Some things are unforgivable and thats okay. But what we are talking about here is letting go of the hurt that is causing you more pain. Letting go of that burden you have been carrying for so long is such a freeing feeling when you finally are able to let it go.
EXPRESS YOUR PAIN
I find talking it out with people really helps to put a new perspective on the situation, and it can really help in letting go of a grudge too. When I go through times of hurt I prefer to talk to the person the hurt came from. Im the kind of person that wanted to delve deeper into their feelings and emotions to try to understand why they are behaving the way they are. Of course as I keep saying, this isn’t always appropriate. It depends on the situation.
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FOCUS ON THE PRESENT
Remember we are always going forward not backwards. We should only look backwards to see how far we have come. Find things you look forward to now and in the present. This will help you to get perspective on your current situation.
I talk about this a lot on my blog but self-care is so important and comes in many different ways, shapes and forms. It’s important that when we are going through a tough time we are kind to ourselves and we treat ourselves with more love than we usually would. When going through any trauma or hard time we need time to heal. Take the bath, take some time off. Do what you love if it helps you overcome what you’re going through.