With a new year comes alot of uncertainty, and I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to not have it all figured out. There seems to be this pressure in life that you have to know your next steps. When in reality you didn’t even know your steps before, they kinda just happened.
Do you ever feel like you’re just blowing in the wind of life, without any sort of direction? I’ve felt like that before. And contrary to belief, it’s okay to feel that way. Alot of the steps I’ve faced in life have just happened, not because I planned them out.
I remember being at a work conference before and we all had to go around and say what our 5 year plan was, and what I said was met with shocked faces. I told everyone I didn’t have a plan, nor did I want one. My view is that we can plan and plan our lives but most of the time it doesn’t turn out the way we expect it to. I don’t know what I’m doing tomorrow let alone in 5 years time. That doesn’t mean I have no aspirations or goals. It simply just means I don’t have it figured out right now.
There seems to be this idea that when you leave school or college, everyone wants to know what job you’ll have. And then once you’re in a good job, they ask when you’ll be getting married. Then they ask when you’re having kids. It’s confusing why we are so focused on the next steps in our lives. Why not embrace where you are right now?
YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN JOURNEY
This life you’re living is your own journey, nobody else’s. Therefore it’s up to you what steps you take and when you take them. Don’t allow any outside opinions influence your decisions. It’s one of the beautiful things about life, no two lives are the same. We all experience the same situations so differently, and thats why you should never allow anyone else to dictate what you should do with your life.
Embrace the journey that you’re on, even if you don’t know the final destination.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE A PLAN
Not everything needs to be planned out (and this is where we hear screams from the very organised people in the world). Yes, I said it. You don’t have to plan everything out or have a plan for your life. As you can tell by this post I am a very go with the flow kinda gal. I do of course have some sense of structure but not when it comes to my life choices. I take things as they come.
That doesn’t mean having a plan is a bad thing, I guess its an each to their own kinda thing. But the point I’m trying to make is that you don’t have to have a plan in life.
SOMETIMES WINGING IT IS THE BEST OPTION
Alot of you probably won’t like this point but I have to talk about it. Winging it and having no idea what to do next is okay. I have done this so many times in my life. I left school and studied photography for 2 years and then went and worked at a super market. And now the job I do has nothing to do with retail or photography. I wasn’t expecting to go into the field that I’m in but I took chances and found a job I really love.
If you would have asked me when I was leaving High School if my job now is something I’d want to be doing at 25, I would have said HELL no. But here I am. I took chances and it lead me to a beautiful place. Sometimes its okay to let the stream steer your direction.
Would you rather have things planned out and organised or do you go with the flow?
Do you feel like you have everything figured out for your future?
Going into the New Year I think we all need to take a step back and go with the flow. None of us imagined that 2020 would turn out the way it did. We were forced to live a different life and still are doing so. Just another point about how we can plan and plan but life ends up going the way it wants to anyway. I hope that this was a positive reminder that its okay to not have it all figured out.