Having best friends is really the biggest blessing in life. Even if those friends don’t stay for a long time, or if they’re in your life for a lifetime. It’s still a blessing to know and form relationships with so many different around in the world. I don’t know about you, but I don’t just call anyone a best friend. A best friend is more than a regular friend. It’s a person you can get deep with. Someone you can share your happy and sad times with. Someone you trust with your life. Having a best friend is so much more than a surface level friendship.
Its actually quite hard to make friends with people now. Similar to dating and finding love, finding new friendships can be really hard. With the age of technology it’s actually almost impossible to build a real life, genuine connection with someone. And this is why I appreciate those I already have in my life so much more. I’d be lost without them and would find it so hard to find new connections with people if I had to.
A while back I did a post where I interviewed my parents about what’s its like being parents. I asked them both the same questions and found that it was interesting how their answers differed. In todays post I will be doing something similar. I had this idea to ask my three best friends the same three questions. Again, in hopes to see if they had some of the same answers. Some of the questions are serious, and some funny! Just to keep things a little light hearted. I won’t be sharing their names or any of their information, except for where they live. I’ll label them as Friend 1, Friend 2 etc. I have friends in America and other countries so I thought it would be important to see how different countries think differently too.
So let’s get started with the first friend!
FRIEND ONE – WEST VIRIGINA, USA
What Makes a Good Friend?
A good friend is someone who is selfless. There are obviously many different attributes to being a good friend, but being a selfless friend will make all of the other amazing qualities of a friend come out. If you are selfless, you will be loyal, loving, honest, forgiving and much more.
Do you agree with the saying, quality over quantity when it comes to friendships?
Yes, for sure, 100%! There have been times in my life where I have been surrounded by many people or ‘friends’ at one time, and have felt more lonely than ever. On the other hand, I have spent the day with one good friend and did not feel a single ounce of loneliness. I would rather have one true friend than a million fake ones.
Do You Believe in Friendship Soulmates?
Duh! There are several people in my life that I would have never met if certain things didn’t happen to make our paths cross. I truly believe that God puts people in our lives for a purpose. Some may only be to stay for a little while, but there are some He puts in our lives that are meant to stay forever.
If you could rate Olivia’s friendship to you, what would you rate it out of 10?(10 being the best)
1 – When she makes fun of my West Virginian accent because of the way I say different words (yeah I know right? Coming from the person who says “Chewsday.”)
Any other time it would be 10. She is the definition of a selfless, loyal and loving friend.
If you could change one thing about our friendship, what would it be?
DISTANCE! It is true that distance does make the heart grow fonder, but how about you in another state, not across the ocean. Okay? Perfect.
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FRIEND TWO – ENGLAND, UK
What Makes a Good Friend?
A good friend is someone that you can talk about anything with, and they never judge you. You also feel comfortable around them, and you both feel like you can be yourselves with each other. I think one of the most important things is feeling like you can truth them with anything. A good friend is not afraid to tell you if they think you’re making the wrong decisions. They help you become the best person you can be. You should always be mindful of the friends you surround yourself with. A trust friend will only ever want the best for you.
Do you agree with the saying, quality over quantity when it comes to friendships?
Yes, quality over quantity always. Having friends that you want to be around and spend time with and have meaningful conversations with will make you more happier. Rather than surrounding yourself with people you feel like you cant open up to.
Do You Believe in Friendship Soulmates?
Yes 100%. You’re my friend soulmate!
If you could rate Olivia’s friendship to you, what would you rate it out of 10?(10 being the best)
Always 10. Couldn’t ask for a better best friend and I am so lucky to have you in my life.
If you could change one thing about our friendship, what would it be?
Theres nothing I would change. You’re the best friend I could ever ask for.
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FRIEND THREE – TEXAS, USA
What Makes a Good Friend?
A good friend supports you in every aspect of your life. They will never bring you down. A good friend listens. You can trust a good friend to not be judgemental. A good friend goes both ways. Proverbs 18:24 – “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly.”
Do you agree with the saying, quality over quantity when it comes to friendships?
I do agree with the saying, quality over quantity when it comes to friendships. The younger me would have thought the opposite. But over the last several years, I’ve learned having a handful of really close friends is better than having a multitude of “friends” that are not all true friends. Having a small quantity of friends means you can really focus on the quality of those friendships and dedicate yourself to being the absolute best friend you can be. I realised my life is so much more fuller and blessed because of it and theirs should be also.
Do You Believe in Friendship Soulmates?
Yes, I totally believe in Best Friend soul mates. It’s that instant connection you have since you met them. They are your go to person in almost every situation and they get you. You can have an amazing time spending time with them and laugh until you cry. Best friends tell you the truth. They don’t sugar coat anything. Even if the truth isn’t what you want to hear. They are up for spontaneous adventure with you, even if that means catching a last minute plane flight to a city you’ve never been to before. They bring out the best in you and you bring out the best in them. I encourage you to go out and find that best friend should mate if you haven’t already because it will change your life.
If you could rate Olivia’s friendship to you, what would you rate it out of 10?(10 being the best)
Of course 10! I’d even say higher! You have always been the best friend you could possibly be. You’ve not only been there in the good times but in the bad times also. You’ve been my shoulder to lean on. You inspire me to be a better friend and a better person. Looking back at when we first met, I’m amazed at how far our friendship has come and how strong it is. Someone from a church in the UK introduced us and we’ve been inseparable since. Olivia has come to America to visit countless times now and each time holds wonderful memories thats mad me who I am. No matter the miles apart you are always close in heart. You are full of wisdom and you live life to the fullest.
If you could change one thing about our friendship, what would it be?
Even though distance doesn’t break our bond, if I could change one thing it would be living closer to each other, so we could spend time together more often. If you lived right down the street from me I would be over almost every day. Maybe one day we will live in the same country.
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What do you think about the answers my friends gave? What makes a good friend? Share your thoughts on friends and friendships!
This post was so much fun to do. And it made me so happy thinking and reflecting on my three very different friendships I have. They are all my best friends, but each relationship is so much different from one another. I am always grateful for them, but even more grateful for their love and friendship now.
I have a friend since school time. He is simple and cute. He makes interesting and attractive drawings.
He is preparing for a medical examination to get selected for India’s best medical institute.
I usually, call him every evening. And he listens to my boring and silly ideas about my blog. I always have so many ideas about stories. He listens to me and tells me what will work the best.
He has promised me to join my blog when I’ll reach 1000 followers. It will be a great help for me because then together we can produce good quality content with images and illustrations.
We both are bounded to our career and family responsibilities. Blogging is not a priority. So prefer experimenting with my blog instead of repeating the same stuff again and again.
I lived hostel life for 7 years in navodaya school. This school community has almost one school in every district of India. So I have so many friends. The morals and values our teachers taught us in the school make us being more humble and paying respect to each other.
That sounds like such a lovely friendship!
Yes Olivia. If used in proper manner it can be very beneficial. Thank you for the post.
What are our friendships truly worth to us, has perhaps been queried the most, whenever we fall out with one another. Wishing for their presence in a time of crisis and who we then turn to first, can make them all the more special.
We unconscionably make comparisons and consequently put more strain on friendships seemingly less valuable, when in all good conscience, that was never the intention.
Friends and friendships are ideals and in nurturing them, those that may or may not stand the test of time, can more often than not, come down to a quirk of fate.
Having a quantity of friends should sustain the quality of live we would otherwise come to expect when being popular, restricting oneself to quality may restrict one’s ability to reach out for our then fearing being judged and deepening the hole we may feel that we are in.
A good and meaningful friendship but particularly those whom we may count on the most, would recognise that they may not always be available and understand and support our having a wider circle, as much for their peace of mind because of any unintentional regrets.
Catch up is fun and should never be endured for reunions congregations are best, the more the merrier.
Thanks for sharing this. So much wisdom as always!
Wow very creative post Olivia, I liked the thought behind it!!! Also you are lucky to find such a great friends ❤ 💕
Thank you so much. I do feel very lucky!
Most of my friends have been with me for 11 years but I met my best friend just 2 years ago and she is indeed my favorite girl. True friendship is a treasure and you’re so lucky to have such lovely best friends, I love this post!
Aw that is so lovely! So glad you have good people around you!
I have two best friends and I love them like I love food. Can’t live without them. They are truly my soulmates and now I am going to ask these same questions to them.
Hahaha such a good comparison! Food is life and so are friends!
This was such a fun idea! Two of my three best friends are related to me which would make these questions interesting doubly interesting. To me, one quality that makes a good friend is someone genuine and honest with you no matter what. Your friends had great answers ☺️🙌🏾
You are so right Jo. Being genuine and honest is so important in friendship!
This is a cool idea! It’s interesting to see what differences and similarities your closest friends all share. Maybe now you have a better understanding of why you get along so well 🙂
I know right. I was shocked. but it makes sense my friends are similar. They are very similar to me too!
Lovely blog Olivia. I agree, our special, best friends are so important. We should cherish them. My best friend is also in Scotland. I cant wait until we can meet and catch up.
Thanks so much! Good friends are hard to come by, so we have to hold them close. Even if they’re far in distance!
I absolutely love this post about friendship. I agree not everyone can be called even a good or great friend nowadays. I really appreciated your questions to them and how each answered. Life changes and so do the people you meet along the way. It really is incredible when you have support throughout these changes in life. Thank you again for sharing. 😊
Thanks so much for reading! So glad you enjoyed the post! 🙂
I love how two of them say distance💕 this is a great idea for a post, thinking about doing something similar for my blog(and give u credit for it!)
Yes please do! I would love to read it 🙂
I won’t forget to tag you!
You caught the emotions behind unconditional relationships here. I think most of the people will be able to relate this very well.
Can’t comment much, it’s taking me somewhere else. Thank you so much for writing this.
It’s awesome!
Thanks so much for your kind words! 🙂
Wonderful perspective shared here.
Thanks alot!
My pleasure 🍁
Loved this. I wish I could ask these to anyone though. I have always struggled in making friends. I guess cause I am an introvert but yes my mother is my good friend if that counts 😅.
Apurva | www buildyourpersona.com
These questions can be asked to anyone 🙂
Dear Olivia,
You are an amazing blogger!!! The reason why I said this is because, I have realised from reading your posts that I haven’t wasted any of my time reading your posts. It has only inspired me to read more!
You are so full of great ideas and you know perfectly to weave them into beautiful words.. that makes every reader like me (who keep on hunting for bloggers like you) to sit back and not miss a single line.
I love your blog. Keep writing. I get an amaaazing vibe from your blog!
With love
Aathmana
Read. Love. Live
Thank you so much friend. This comment really made my day. I really appreciate your love and support! 🙂
Would love to extend my hand of friendship to you!
Here’s to a new friendship!!🥂🤩
Keep writing beautiful contents!! You are so full of ideas!!!🤩
Someone who doesn’t like all things about you but likes you.
YES!
I would go with the answer your first friend gave — not that I don’t agree with the rest too, of course. A good friend is the person who is not self-absorbed and doesn’t see your friendship in a utilitarian way, but value it deeper. As a more general comment about friendship, I would say that as with love, to be a friend to must be able to be a friend, and to do that you must first and foremost be kind of fulfilled with yourself. Otherwise, if you’re bitter, you won’t be able to be a friend or even genuinely like other people. But then again, good friendship is necessary in order to be fulfilled! The one feeds the other.
Loved this explanation!
Thank you for this lovely and thought-provoking post. My answer to your first question is that my best friends are ones who are faithful to God. I believe that that’s what makes them faithful and true to me and to others in their lives. How blessed we are when we have friends who love Him and love us.
From the responses of your good friends it seems you’re such a one. I think of the words that Jesus said: “Whoever does the will of God is my brother, sister, and mother.” Yes, one who does the will of God is a great, invaluable treasure to us.
Bless you for causing my heart to think about what dear friends God has given to me and to be filled with gratitude for them.
Your Sister in Christ,
❤️Michele
Thanks so much for sharing this Michele. There is nothing sweeter than having friends in Jesus, and I think thats what makes friendships that extra bit special!
Nice post
Thanks so much!
Okay dear
All of the answers are best . You are very lucky to have ” Real friends” . I don’t use best because “Real is Rare” as I thought.
And you have best friendships because” we are not perfect but together our relations can be “- again what I thought 💭
I love this idea! So interesting to compare and contrast special relationships! ❤️
wonderful posting 👍
so interesting 🎉
Lovely squad
Wow, Olivia. This post just highlights what an amazing person and friend you are. You inspire such love and provide meaning in the lives of others. You’re friends sound wonderful. I really enjoyed reading their answers. I hope to one day have such a friendship as these. One where we push each other to grow and can open up about anything without fear of judgement. One where no matter the distance, you know you can call on them and they come running or try their best.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful post.