Hi, I’m Niraj from Niraj’s blogs and I am excited to be taking over Olivia’s blog today and we’ll be talking about 10 things we have both learn from facing difficult situations. !
I have faced difficult situations in the past, but I have learnt something from all of these situations, and I want to share this in this post. I am aware that everyone’s situation is different, but I hope you can relate to some of the things I talk about.
ITS IMPORTANT TO LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES
Sometimes you get into difficult situations for things that are not your fault at all, and sometimes you get into difficult situations for things that are your fault to an extent. However, in most cases there will be lessons you can learn from it. This is because it’s highly unlikely that you would have dealt with a hard situation perfectly. When I remember the difficult situations that I have faced, I remember the satisfaction that came out of overcoming it. But I also know that there were mistakes that I had made, and things that I could have done differently. I cannot stress how vital it is to learn from your mistakes, as it will that help you grow as a person but also help you massively if it happens again.
SOME THINGS ARE JUST NOT IN YOUR CONTROL DURING DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
A lot of us beat ourselves up when we end up in difficult situations. We blame ourselves and think it is our fault that we got into that position in the first place. However, there are external factors that come into play that we have absolutely no control over.
A personal example that illustrates my point was when I was applying for graduate schemes in my final year of university. That was a very difficult and stressful situation for me as I had to balance that with academics, having a social life as well as committee positions, and my mental health wasn’t the greatest at that time. The obvious solution to overcome this difficult situation was to secure a job and to do the things that were in my control. However, what made things a bit tricky was that I had to accept that there were lots of factors that I had very little control over. The point I want to make is that in life there are things that you simply don’t have much control or influence over, and it’s important to accept that.
WE SOMETIMES UNDERESTIMATE OUR OWN ABILITIES
It has always been the case for me that a lot of my fears related to the future is related to the fact that I don’t think I would be able to cope or deal with a difficult and tricky situation when it arises. And then I tend to surprise myself in how well I end up dealing with a difficult situation when it comes along. In fact, I sometimes think that hard or stressful situations come my way to remind me that I am more resilient than I think I am!
If we all believe in our own abilities, and believe in ourselves to achieve the goals, then we will automatically have a more positive mindset. I do appreciate however that all of this is easier said than done, and it’s not a change you can suddenly do overnight.
IT’S IMPORTANT TO VALUE THE PEOPLE THAT GENUINELY CARE FOR YOU
There are lots of people that would love to be around you and know you when things are going great for you. However, it’s only when you are going through a hard time where you get to see which of those people are genuine, as they are the ones that support you when the going gets tough.
It is really important to value the people that will stay by your side when things are hard, as those people are far and few between. For me, the difficult moments have shown me how supportive and caring my family are, and they have always been there for me without fail when I have needed them. Difficult moments have also shown me who my true friends are. Valuing and showing your appreciation for the people that have been there in your low moments is also a great way to show gratitude, and this can help your wellbeing massively.
A LOT OF THINGS GET PUT INTO PERSPECTIVE, WHEN YOU GO THROUGH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
I think the best example that illustrates this for me was when I was struggling with my mental health at university. At times it got so bad that things like eating 3 meals a day or waking up on time became challenging. One thing that I learnt from struggling a lot with mental health is the importance of putting things into perspective. There are things that we spend lots of time fretting about which actually don’t matter. My poor mental health at university made things challenging for me on a daily basis, and could have had long term consequences if I didn’t do anything about it. Therefore, short-term worries like academics or job applications got put into perspective and suddenly didn’t feel important.
What have you learnt during difficult things you have been through?
And don’t forget to check out Olivia’s post, where she shares 5 things she has learnt through difficult situations on my blog.