If we can all agree on one thing during 2020, and thats how over this pandemic we are. The whole of 2020 has been filled with separation from our loved ones, negative news and so many other difficult situations. I often remind myself of the good that has come from this year when I feel like I’m on a downward spiral in my own thoughts. It’s not hard for us to feel lonely this year, even if you have been locked in your home with other people.
I’ve often battled loneliness during this pandemic and I live with my parents. The lack of social interaction from my peers and the lack of leaving the house can make anyone feel down. I can’t even imagine what it’s like for people who live alone at this time, it must be so difficult. It’s important that we do various things to stop this feeling, and in todays post I hope to share some tips that I’ve been doing to help battle the feeling of loneliness.
TAKE STEPS TO CONNECT WITH OTHERS
This might sound like an obvious point but it’s something I often forget to do. During this pandemic it’s given us alot of time of reflection, and it’s given us alot of thinking time. It’s easy to start pointing fingers and saying that none of your friends have checked up on you, but have you checked up on them too? Friendships/relationships are a two way street. If you’re feeling lonely, reach out with your friends and make plans with them. They don’t even need to be in person plans, they could be scheduling movie dates via FaceTime or planning a group zoom quiz. Don’t wait around for others to come to you.
Alot of the time people don’t intentionally lose contact with you. Remember there are so many other things going on in this world. You never know that they might be struggling with loneliness too.
GET ENOUGH SLEEP
Sleep is one of the most important things we need for our minds and bodies. Making sure you get a good deep sleep overnight is vital for improving your mood. Alot of the time feelings of loneliness arise due to our moods. When we are in a bad place, we often sit and dwell on the various things that are bad in our lives. This may lead us to believe we are lonely when as a matter of fact, we aren’t. Feelings of loneliness usually come in waves, and sleep deprivation has a big effect on those feelings.
If you are struggling to sleep there are many things you can do to help to reduce the issue. Try essential oils, lavender in particular. Diffusing lavender or applying safe for skin lavender oil on your temples and neck can really help with sleep. Avoid using electric devices at least an hour before sleep. Reading before sleep really helps too.
FIND SOMETHING TO FOCUS ON
Having a hobby or something you’re passionate about can really help to focus your mind. Alot of feeling lonely is a battle of the mind, and its all about making sure your mind doesn’t get to that place. One of the reasons why I re-started this blog was to find a purpose and a hobby during the Pandemic. It’s helped me so much over the past few months, and it’s really helped me to feel focused. One of the great things about blogging is the interaction with others, and thats helped me feel less alone.
It’s okay and normal to admit that you’re struggling. I know this pandemic has had an effect on so many peoples mental health, and I’m sure it will continue to for a while afterwards too. It’s hard to believe we have been dealing with this virus for almost a year, the time has gone fast but slow at the same time. Please always reach out to someone if you feel as though you can’t cope. The feeling of loneliness can have such an impact on our confidence and our mental state. It’s okay to admit you aren’t coping well, it doesn’t mean you are not strong and you should never feel embarrassed about it.
How has this pandemic affected you? What kind of effect has it had on your mental health?
If you don’t feel like you have anyone you can reach out to, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I would be more than happy to talk with you and try to help in any way I can. There is always someone out there who will listen, you are not alone.