[GUEST POST]
As 2020 closes, I want to share a gift to all of you. This gift is to be remembered at all times especially when dealing with dilemmas beyond your control. Your state of mind is everything. Develop it. Protect it. Value it. Itβs a small gift from me to you; a reminder as you reach your dreams in 2021!
Hi, everybody! I’m Monique, a 20-year-old college student and blogger based on the Philippines. I talk about my struggles and experiences as an aspiring writer who just finished writing my very first novel last October. Aside from that, I also spread motivation and advice to young adults my age. I talk about all of this in my blog called www.lifebeginsattwenty.com. I’d appreciate it if you spare a few minutes of your time to visit it and read one or two articles.
Iβm honoured to be partnered with Olivia on this and to be given an opportunity to showcase my ability to talk and write about my passions to an even larger audience. Also, I did an interview with Olivia on my blog! If you want to see it, click here.
DO SOMETHING YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO TRY
Your life is full of possibilities when youβre open to new chances. Before this year ends, take a risk and try it. Donβt mind what other people may think because itβs your decision that will matter. Who knows, that could be your calling and your breakthrough. If you still allow fear to stop you from growing, you will never be able to reach ultimate happiness. If youβre all too caught up with the struggle and not see the purpose behind it, then you will lose sight and eventually lose vision. Donβt waste your time listing all the things you fear. Whether they will support you or not (but in reality, they probably won’t), it does not depend on them for you to stop. Keep going because youβve just begun. You have to keep going because this is something youβve waited your whole life to try.
DETACH YOURSELF FROM PEOPLE WHO DO YOU WRONG
Start 2021 with a mind full of positivity and a brand new beginning. One way to achieve that peace is to permanently stay away from people who keep you from feeling that peace. Donβt wait for them to walk away, donβt wait for them to make another mistake. When all that person reminds you of your terrible past Then do your future self a favor and leave them. Sometimes they have to leave because they no longer have a reason or a use in your life. Their presence in your life is put there for a reason. Whether it is for your growth or for you to build your confidence in yourself. I understand you might feel scared because you donβt know what your life would be without them. But thatβs because youβre so caught up with the minimum of life that you thought thatβs all you deserve.
Youβre too attached to feeling the same old negative emotions that 2020 brought that you feel strange when you donβt feel offended. If this happens to you, it goes to show youβve experienced more pain than happiness and your heart is tired but the reason itβs still beating for them is because you have a good one. This means that once you leave those people who arenβt good for you, they are the one who lost somebody and not you. Clear your mind of insecurity so you can see and fight for the worth thatβs locked out of yourself for so long. Well, you are wrong. You deserve so much more.
STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD
Among all, it is essential to fortify your roots to our Creator. It is important to harness your faith into something long-lasting and meaningful. And that is done by instilling into your mind the peace that you need. You need inner peace to silence the noises of distraction and doubt that surround you. You need fortitude to shield yourself from the evil that comes in many forms; earning your trust and eventually leading you astray from where youβre headed. You canβt bring peace to you; you have to bring yourself to peace. This requires sacrifice to leave those who arenβt good for you. You have to put yourself in a place where youβre best suited to grow in ways you never thought you could.
Strengthen your relationship to the Lord by prayer and constant heed for His guidance in everyday struggle. To develop your mind, you need to be in peace with the Lord. That means getting to know who He is and acknowledging His presence among us and our plans. You need to trust Him that everything will work out according to what He has in store for you for the rest of 2020. Let it be known that He holds our future, but this doesnβt mean we do nothing. We are born here on this earth because we have a mission to do, and this mission must be done by us and no one else. Offer all your worries to Him because youβre not supposed to carry it all by yourself.
FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND STAY AWAY FROM DRAMA
With the rise of the digital age, it is as easy as a swipe of a finger to get involved in unnecessary drama of other people. Even if you donβt know these people, social media has hostage you into believing you owe them your opinion. You owe them a small part of your time to sit down and make a statement out of a situation with no importance whatsoever. To develop and most of all, protect your state of mind, stay away from enablers and perpetrators of drama. Stay away from gossipers who love to pass on to you the businesses of others. If you feel the urge to comment, fight it and convince yourself itβs not worth it.
Instead of putting all your energy into disagreeing with people and getting mad at those who contradict you, put all that energy into becoming someone better in 2020 and beyond. Donβt give hate and spite the opportunity to derail your mind from self-improvement. The more you entertain these bad vibes, the more vulnerable and unprotected you are from it.
What have you learnt from 2020? What new ways of thinking will you be taking into 2021?
Monique
wwww.lifebeginsattwenty.com
Good blog.
Love the whole guest blogging idea.
Me too! Itβs such a great way to help eachother out as bloggers βΊοΈ
This is such a great blog for going into 2021, especially after the year we’ve all had!
Agreed! We need all the positivity going into 2021!
I always like reading posts about how others find happiness. Even though some of the ideas are different from my own I still always manage to find a good tip or a helpful reminder. Iβll be heading over to check out more from Monique now!
Me too! They are the best arent theyπ₯°
I agree! Avoid drama like the plague π€’
For real! Get me away from that mess!
In 2020, after a lot of struggle and inner turmoil, I have learned to not fight the waves. Certain situations are out of our control and as much as we would like to, there is no changing them. Like a wave, we have to accept them and ride them out. Feeling not in control can get unbearable, but it does require less energy which in turn we can use on something else that might bring us and others joy. So keep riding that wave that is 2020. We will find calmer waters eventually π
I saw a picture once that showed waves, and the first one came and the person ran away. Then the second and they stood to enjoy the view and prepared for it. Then the third they decided to ride the wave. You can imagine which wave they were the happiest at! Such a good way to look at it!
Nice one Monique! Itβs so nice to see people openly talk about their faith and remind others of how important it is. Great tips all around~ im checking your blog out!
Thanks for reading Shelly!βΊοΈ
Thanks for reading!βΊοΈβΊοΈ
“Start 2020 with a mind full of”
2021! π Please let’s not do another 2020 π lol.
Hahah I changed it π€£
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What a wonderful post! I agree that trying something new and detaching yours from negative people will go a long way towards a better state of mind ππ
Yes for sureπ
A very motivational post given the year that weβve had and a lot of great points to take from it. I think one thing Iβve learnt is that life is not entirely up to us and to find a place of peace and serenity in times where things donβt go our way. Excellent guest blog, will check out her platform for articles, bless you for sharing
Yes! Love this perspective ππΌ
Fantatsic points Olivia. I am very detached from people and stay far away from negativity. Maybe I go too far the other way but I don’t have to ever worry about the anxiety from people.
Sometimes thats the best way to be! Stay out of the negative energy!
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Congratulations for your novel