At some point in our lives we have all had a jealous heart. Whether it’s the promotion you should have gotten, or watching someone else live out your dream. We have all experienced that feeling of “that should be me”. Jealousy is a normal emotion to feel but it can get out of hand easily and cause alot of problems if you aren’t careful. Having jealousy in your heart can be really damaging to your mental health, and can often cause issues in relationships.
There have been many times I have noticed in myself jealousy, especially when it comes to seeing someone else living out what I wanted to be doing. I’m not ashamed of admitting my faults. I want to drill it into everyones mind that feeling jealous is normal but shouldn’t be something we let eat us up inside. I overcame those feelings and have such a better outlook at life now. I’ve changed and evolved into a better person because of dealing with those feelings.
So for todays post I thought I’d share some things we can all do when we find jealousy in our hearts.
HEAL YOUR OWN WOUNDS
Often a jealous heart comes from wounds that haven’t healed. Jealousy says alot more about us sometimes than other people. Alot of the time through jealousy we project how we are feeling about ourselves. For example, if you find yourself jealous of someone else due to their looks or their body. It shows you aren’t 100% happy in how you are. It’s time to heal your own wounds, nobody can do that for you.
I understand that not all wounds are the same, some are deeper than others and some may have healed slightly whilst others are fresh. This process can be a long process and what makes it harder is that there is no rule book. Every situation is different. But once you start healing the wounds that have been caused, you will find that those things you’ve been feeling will slowly start to go away.
START THE SELF-LOVE JOURNEY
As I have mentioned already, alot of jealousy can come from a place of insecurity within ourselves. This happens usually when we aren’t 100% happy with who we are. One thing I have tried to do better recently is self-love and self-care. Just the act of showing yourself that you are appreciated and loved can be so healing.
Self-love isn’t always an easy process but its one we should all go through. You learn so much about yourself and are forced to face your anxieties and insecurities head on.
WORK THROUGH YOUR INSECURITIES
Insecurities are one of the biggest reasons you may find yourself jealous of another. If you’re not truly happy with who you are and where you’re at, then it can have effects on other aspects of your life. It’s important that you work through those feelings of insecurity to reduce the feelings of jealousy. Being truly content with who you are will mean that you probably wont get jealous when someone is prettier than you or got that job promotion you wanted.
It can be hard to do this, I know. It might not be quick, it might not be easy but it’s necessary. If you want to be truly happy in who you are then you should take these steps to heal.