One thing I really dislike about society now-a-days is how it makes you feel bad. It makes you feel bad if you’re not slim enough, if you don’t earn X amount of money etc. Society makes you feel you’re not successful or you’re behind everyone else if you’re going at a different pace. Social media has a huge play in this because you constantly see everyone online buying houses, having babies and getting married. Its a natural and human thing to think, well why am I not there yet? There are so many things in life you shouldn’t feel bad about. And this post is your reminder.
Its normal and natural to compare yourself to others, heck.. I do it too! We are humans after all. But please don’t pressure yourself or think there’s something wrong with you if you’re not where everyone else is.
When coming up with new content for the new year, I knew I wanted to talk on this topic because with a new year comes expectations. And I want to break down that expectation so you know there is no pressure on you to do anything you don’t want to this year. It’s so important for our mental health that we don’t pressurise ourselves into believing we should be at a certain point in our lives. When its perfectly okay if we aren’t.
NOT HAVING EVERYTHING FIGURED OUT
Im 26 and I have only just started figuring things out in my life. I always tell younger people than me that its okay if you have 3 jobs in 3 years because you don’t know what you want to do. It’s okay if you don’t want to go to university or if you aren’t sure what your passions are. We need to stop pressurising people into thinking they have to have everything figured out.
As I said, I have only just now started making decisions regarding my future and thats okay! Because my life is going at my own pace.
A New year and after Christmas can be such a triggering time in alot of peoples lives due to the stigma around weight gain. I realise this is such a sensitive topic and I will approach it with caution. But I thought it is something that should be mentioned. As someone who has fluctuating weight her whole life, I know how this feels. When you gain weight you tend to hear remarks from other people and are made to feel bad about it.
Gaining weight is one of those things that we all go through in life at some point. Please don’t ever feel bad for gaining some pounds. For those who are on the outside looking in, please be cautious and kind around people who you notice that have gained weight. Christmas and the New Year are the only times of the year when alot of people feel fully comfortable to eat and drink what they want. You never know the reason behind someone gaining weight, it could be a health condition. You have no right to comment.
BAD MENTAL HEALTH DAYS
On occasion I have felt bad after having bad mental health days, which shouldn’t be the case because its not like I can help it. Just like if it was a physical health issue, you’d probably be encouraged to take it slow or take time off. There should be no difference in doing this for your mental health. Don’t ever let people make you feel bad for needing time off to recoup and recharge.
There is this stigma around mental health sometimes, especially from those who don’t experience it themselves. We can often be described as lazy and unmotivated when we need to take days off, but we know this isn’t the case. We need these days in order to be motivated.
Don’t ever feel bad for setting boundaries with people in your life. Boundaries are sometimes needed and have to be in place in order for you to function and be around people. You are allowed to say no to people if you don’t want to do something. You should never feel bad about making yourself a priority. Often we spend alot of time worrying about others, and tend to forget about ourselves. Let’s change this now, put yourself first.
2021 is not the year for you to come last in life, that rarely ever works out. Set those boundaries without even thinking of the after effects.