Online negativity is something we will all go through if we find ourselves on the internet for long enough. Naturally, with positive things there are always negatives. We can’t always expect things to be peachy all of the time. There are mean, nasty and negative people out there who want to cause you distress and make you unhappy and thats the reality of life.
Thankfully, I’ve only ever encountered a handful of mean people online. I know this isn’t the experience alot of people have and for that I am thankful.
If you’re quite active on social media it makes it easier for others to have access to you. Which is very scary to me, and one of the main reasons why I choose to keep my private life away from my blogging life. I’ve had encounters with rude people through blogging and its not nice. It makes you feel defeated and down, especially if you’ve never experienced it before.
IT SAYS MORE ABOUT THEM THAN YOU
When people are mean to you through your screen just remember it says more about them than it does about you. They went out of their way to be rude to you for no reason. Alot of the time people who are rude online are insecure themselves and just need someone to take it out on. I know it can be hard to show love or grace to someone who has been mean to you, but just think they must be going through something to be mean to a stranger online. Remember that arguing back or being rude to them doesn’t do much, it usually makes the situation worse. So if you can, just ignore it. Delete the message and move on with your life. You’ll forget about it soon enough.
Some people just want to spread hate and negativity and if they want to do that let them. It’s giving them a platform to do it that we should avoid. Alot of time it’s for attention, so not giving them that attention will make them go away.
BLOCK & UNFOLLOW
The beauty that is the block and unfollow buttons. I love utilising the unfollow and block button for so many different reasons. The power is yours and yours only. If someone is mean to you or negative then you have the power to get rid of them from your online life. Knowing that I can choose the outcome provides me with great power and control.
Theres nothing better than taking away the voice the hater thinks it has by blocking them. It will probably annoy them too, which is even better!
FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE PARTS
With all the negatives that can come with online life, remember the positives too. There is so much good online that you can enjoy. Fill your feeds with love, kindness and things you can enjoy. And focus on the good. I know it’s easier said than done but focus on those loving comments you get and the praise you do receive. Alot of the time we focus on that one negative comment when we should be reading and embracing all of the other positive ones.
It’s also important to remember that you control who you follow too. If you choose to follow pages that aren’t good for you and your mental health then change it. One of the best things I did was clean out my following lists. I replaced influencers with people who promote positivity and love. It did wonders for me.
How do you cope with online negativity?
Have you ever had any negativity aimed towards you?
Online negativity has no place in our lives. Say it with me!
Olivia x
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Well and truly said Olivia👍
Thanks alot!
The internet could be toxic at times because of people who try to make others feel bad. This is really helpful. Thanks😊
You’re right!
Block, block, block! I’ve had to change the kind of people I follow as well, so I can see better representations of beauty that relate to what I’m trying to accept in myself.
Same!! I did a deep cleanse on my Instagram and followed all the page/people who spread positivity. That’s why it so important that we pick and choose what content we want consume.
A great read Olivia✨ x
Thanks so much 💕
The Block button is a blessing!
Never ever surrender EVER
Excellent post “Olivia”
It is an uncomfortable experience receiving negative reviews but particularly those which denigrate the author for their positivity.
These screens in place of buttons still enable the user to exercise caution, utilizing them as a safety net makes for good practice, never ever engage with negativity EVER.
Thanks so much Martin!
Block and unfollow. Two beautiful words!
Yes! The best words haha!
Last month I received some comments from a blogger on one of the posts, though I tried so hard to take it as constructive criticism it was way too rude to do so, and then the blogger went out of his way to badmouth about my posts in his blogs!!! I was so shocked!!! My confidence shook and every time I want to write a new story, I couldn’t as I start remembering his comments!!! For a very long time, I couldn’t write any new story, finally, I blocked that person, deleted his comments, and mustered the courage and strength and start writing again. This was one hell of an experience.
I am so sorry you had to go through that. Like Olivia said —block and unfollow!
You are a awesome writer Vani😘😘 xx
Awww thanks, Shahrin 💖💖💖 the love and support from you people helped me to come out of that phase, and that’s when I wrote ‘free bird’.
And that was one of my favourite posts from you🤗 x
Awww thank you💖💖
I’m so sorry this happened to you. But its a learning experience isn’t it? It builds up thicker skin and helps us to learn from our previous mistakes. We cant please everyone. and thats what the block button is for. I hope the situation has been resolved now ☺️
Yup, it was a kind of experience!!! A dreadful one though🙈🙈🙈
Block and unfollow. The online equivalent of saying and meaning no! Well said Olivia. 🙏
I’ve never experienced this thing but I’ve met some people forcing me to do something I don’t want to and at that time, block and unfollow… The best! Thanks for the tips Olivia, if it ever happens to me, I’ll remember this post.
You’re very lucky! And I hope you never have to either.
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Thanks so much!
At my end here.Negative words to bring you down is an everyday affairs. Block or unfollow.No. My own inspiration comes from their bad thoughts
I hope they won’t realise this .
Cheers Olivia
Like this a lot. I really appreciate the first point about how it says more about them than it does about you. Sad to think that there are enough people out there who think that it’ll make them feel better to cut someone down behind the veil of internet anonymity that we actually have to develop strategies to deal with them. I wonder if things will get better over time or if the trolls will become more toxic. we’ll just have to see.
I hope they improve. It can be really damaging for some people to have to go through that. It’s really unfair. I really hope there are more consequences in the future for people like that too.
Negativity is not worth the headache and you are totally right love all the points but especially…it says a lot of that person. I do love what my eyes see, so I intentionally choose the feeds that come through. I am a big fan of the click button to unfollow and block without a second thought. It my eyes and my laptop and my phone and my mind does not need negative thoughts as I already have mine under control, don’t need the extra help.
Thank you for the post, big hugs x
Thanks so much for sharing this. It really isn’t worth the pain that can come with the negativity of online! x
On my personal social media accounts I have most of my friends unfollowed 😅. I just get tired of reading their political opinions and rants, or seeing a million posts or pictures of the same thing. I rarely even go on my personal social media, but when I do, it’s to read news and see funny pictures.
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I don’t blame you. Just cause they’re you’re friends doesnt mean you have to read what they say!
Well said! It’s very uncomfortable. Negativity is a reflection of their character-mental health. I’m all about blocking negative critics.
You’re right. Blocking is the best thing to do!
I just block too. Not got the energy for back and forth on social media
YES! Me too
I love this post! Very well said. I agree with everything. I just did a recent cleanse on my social media and only follow people who I talk to and who are nice, and allow certain followers. My one friend didn’t post a picture of herself cause some people insulted it even though it was a gorgeous picture. Negativity is everywhere and it’s affecting everyone’s mental health (especially teenagers and younger girls). I suggest watching The Social Dilemma on Netflix! Very good documentary.
A cleanse is such a great thing to do. I do them periodically just to make sure that I filter out the people I dont want there and the negativity!
I agree with you, we can take control of what we view, saying yes to the people and posts that lift us up, and no to the negativity. It is important that we protect ourselves and also that we support each other and spread positive energy.
You’re so right!
I am so happy with the blessing buttons block and unfollow,a major way of cutting out unnecessary comments! 😄
Here Here! This post was a timely reminder – to focus on all those wonderful people who support you and your success. And agreed, that often, those who make hateful and negative comments are obviously not happy in their own lives and have some level of insecurity. So bid them farewell with love. A friend of mine gave me a tip. She said Blocking can sometimes be seen as a Badge of Honour but “The Mute Button” she said was a very powerful tool. The hateful person doesn’t know that they are muted and so is continuously wasting their time and energy posting hateful comments – that you will never seen. That made me chuckle! Thanks for this wonderful reminder. x