Something I noticed during my weight loss journey is how people treated me different after losing weight. As many of you know, I have been on my fitness journey now for nearly 9 months. I have had to continuously learn better eating habits without letting old habits creep back in. And throughout this journey I have learnt so much about myself and who I am.
When I look back to my bigger body and my smaller body now, I don’t think I treated myself any differently. I still struggle now with some of the same insecurities I did when I was bigger. But I know I don’t love myself differently. I love myself the same now as I did back then. Which is why its surprising to me when I started to notice how others started acting towards me as I got smaller.
Generally we know that smaller, more petite bodies are accepted in society. Its all we see on the front of magazines and online. Its plastered in our faces that we must look a certain way to be considered beautiful. Which confused me a little. Because here I am, loving my fat body and loving my small body. Why is that I am able to do that but everybody else can’t?
As the pounds continue to fall of my body, I started to slowly notice how people were acting towards me. Even walking down the street, the unwanted attention creeped up a little more and I noticed more likes and attention on social media too.
I GET MORE ATTENTION
Obviously there are men and women in this world that love and adore women with bigger bodies. But ever since losing weight I couldn’t help but notice that the men I used to be ignored by, now want to speak with me and get to know me. Being bigger must have been more of a deterrent to men. I’ve even had comments when I have lost weight before from guys telling me that I am “sexier now.” Those kind of comments aren’t needed and quite frankly are rude.
It’s like you become more popular and people want to be your friend and get to know you just because of how you look. It’s such a weird concept when you think about it. I know there are people who have preferences for bodies on those they are attracted to. Which is fine. But my mindset is, if you didn’t want me before, I don’t want you now.
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PEOPLE FEEL COMFORTABLE COMMENTING ON YOUR BODY
When you lose weight of course those around you start to notice. They tell you how good you look and ask how you’ve achieved it. Those kind of comments are welcome. But it becomes an issue when people make comments about you continuing to lose more. I have heard comments like “are you going to lose more?! you don’t need to lose more.” Since when is it okay to comment on anybodies weight?
There is this misconception that when you lose weight and workout you just do it to be smaller. Which for me was never the case. Yes I wanted to lose weight but my focus is not just losing weight. I want to be fitter and healthier from the inside and out. So yes, the weight loss is great but its about the bigger picture. So next time you think it’s acceptable to comment on someone else’s body. Don’t.
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I AM TREATED WITH MORE KINDNESS
One thing I noticed quite quickly when I started losing weight was so people were kinder to me. The compliments and love came rolling in quickly, and although it was great for my ego it was confusing why only now people decided to be nicer to me. Humans deserve kindness regardless of what they look like. That should be the standard we all have as people. No matter how big or small your body is, you deserve to be loved. And I think this is the one I struggle with the most.
I have been both sides. And honestly, people do treat you differently.
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People treated me different after losing weight and I don’t think its right. Have you ever experienced this? What are your thoughts on this topic?
When I first started to notice that people treated me different after losing weight I thought it was all in my head. But after speaking to others, I realise its such a common theme of people who have lost weight too. It makes me feel so sad that people aren’t loved and accepted in their bodies as they are. Why should we change to become more accepted by others? We should be loved regardless. And thats something I think we all need to look at.