If you are single and trying to find love in the 21st century you will be able to relate to almost everything I talk about in this post. Without going into too much detail on my own personal experiences, I myself am on the market to find the man of my dreams. This sounds like a dating show doesn’t it?!
Honestly, for most of my 20s I wasn’t really too interested in trying to find a partner. I had own battles and struggles I knew I needed to work through before even considering finding someone to spend my life with. I am very much a believer that you have to love yourself before even thinking of letting someone else love you. And as I have been on a health and fitness journey, along the way my confidence and self love has improved so much.
If you’re single in 2022 you know the struggle it is to find love. Dating and meeting people aren’t like they used to be. It’s rare you hear of couples meeting on their morning train journey or at their local coffee shop. The 21st century is all about online dating. Which we will get into.
I’d really be interested in hearing some of your stories (as along as you feel comfortable sharing them) on finding love in the 21st century and what the experience has been like for you.
ONLINE DATING – NEED I SAY MORE?
Where do I even begin? Online dating is honestly a blessing and a curse. It’s great because you have access to thousands of people in the comfort of your own home, which is perfect for girls like me who don’t really go to places to meet guys. I think it’s such a great way to create new connections with people aswell. And it really gives you a feel of what kind of people are out there in the singles world.
But on the flip side, online dating makes it easy for people to be unfaithful to their partners and it encourages this disposable mentality that you can be replaced easily. Kind of like ‘this person isn’t for me, but its okay because there are 100 others for me to choose from.’
Online dating can be exhausting too. Continuously having the same conversations with people. Sharing the same information about where you work, what your hobbies are and why you’re single. It can become boring fast. I have though, met some amazing people through connecting on dating apps. Some I still speak with now even though it might not be romantic.
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PEOPLE AREN’T HONEST
One thing that I think is lacking in the dating world is honesty. Alot of people are not honest with their intentions even from the get go. There are so many people out there looking for so many different relationships. Some casual, some more serious. One thing I have noticed is that alot of people are not honest with their intentions. They like to lead people on, just to break them down. And I am not for that.
Finding love in the 21st century really humbles you like nothing else in the world. Its such a reminder that you aren’t for everybody and thats okay. Some are too honest and others not honest enough. For all you know the person you go on a date with might have a partner already. How are you to know?!
I have had many failed dates, and I’m not ashamed of that. Better to go out there and try than always wonder what if.
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COMMITTMENT IS A SCARY THING
A common theme I have found in finding love in the 21st century is that people are scared of commitment. It sounds all fine and dandy when you’re talking to someone through an app, but it’s a different experience when the person is sitting in front of you. Alot of people get cold feet, fast!
You also want to make sure you’re committing to the right person too, which may take a while. So I hope you have enough patience!
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WHEN IT WORKS IT WORKS
I’m really aware that this post is mainly very negative about dating in 2022, but its not all bad. I have heard such wonderful, romantic stories of how people have fallen in love in the 21st century. And honestly its beautiful. I like to think of it as each date or romantic interest is a lesson we can all learn. The dating process has made me realise what I want from a partner.
Finding love in any aspect is a great thing. Whether it’s romantic or platonic. I think we should all search to love as many people in this life as we can.
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