How To Lovingly Let Go of Relationships

We have all been there. We’ve gotten to a point where a friendship or relationship just isn’t working for us anymore, we don’t know what to do. We know we must walk away from them but we don’t know how. Hopefully I can provide some useful tips for you all in this post. I’m no expert but I’ll do my best to give you as much knowledge as I can around this tough subject.

Please remember that I don’t know your situation, so this advice may be relevant and it may not. Thats just how things are sometimes, but I’ll do my best to be as broad as I can!

Sometimes its Not About You

There are occasions where the reason why the friendship or relationship has ended isn’t because of something you did. When people abruptly end friendships/relationships often times it says a lot more about them than it does about you. I know it’s hard, especially when there are no answers. Always think about their feelings too, they might be going through something that you don’t know about. Learn to have grace with people.

Try to Get Closure If You Can

Write a letter, text or email to them or meet up if they are willing to talk it out. Sometimes these things happen due to mis-communication. Even if you don’t end up sending the letter or text or email, its good to just get it out of your system. Ending something on good terms is always favoured than ending on bad terms.

Just Walk Away

Sometimes holding onto something thats not there anymore hurts you both more. Its okay to walk away and do what’s best for you. Sometimes staying and fighting for something isn’t worth the stress it comes with.

It’s a Process

Almost like mourning the death of what could have been, its a process just the same. You are no longer speaking with and communicating with that person anymore. It can be hard going from one extreme to the other, but it’s a healing process. With anything at first its hard, but we learn and adapt quite quickly as humans. You will get there, it might just take some time.

As I said at the beginning of this post, I don’t know what you’re going through. Whether its a bad break up or a friendship thats gone distant. I hope these tips can help you get through it.

Have you gone through this before? What tips can you share with us?

I hope this post was of help to you, and I hope you get through whatever it is you’re going through right now. There is light at the end of the tunnel always. Olivia x

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77 thoughts on “How To Lovingly Let Go of Relationships

  1. This was such a great post I loved it!! I think closure is a really good point and so is learning it’s not always about you. I think a really good way to try and move past it is to address your feelings head on. It can be so painful sometimes so if you need to sob and eat ice cream for a few hours, allow yourself to do that. But then, writing a letter and getting all your feelings out and addressing them is so healing because even if you don’t send it, you’re still dealing with them in a constructive way. Great post as always!!

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    1. Yes! Im such an advocate for feeling your feelings. Ignoring them or bottling them up always causes an explosion down the line. Thank you for sharing that tipπŸ’• and for the lovely comment!

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  2. This is such a lovely post! Yes I do believe that sometimes we get into a kind of relationship that isn’t worth it or does not work but I think it’s better to walk away from it rather than staying in it. I have had a very painful past but I guess it’s always for the better. Yes it was painful but in the end I realized that it was better to walk away. Anyways great post dear. 😊

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  3. Great post! It definitely is a process! I’m still mourning a lost relationship even though I’ve moved, got married and had a baby! I think what helps is also reminding yourself why you let go to begin with because sometimes your paths are just not aligned.

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    1. Those relationships stay with us don’t they. Its always a sad time when you no longer speak with or having sort of relationship with that person anymore. The connection can sometimes always remain.
      Agreed! Theres always a reason why things don’t last!
      Thank you for your comment Shelly πŸ’–

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  4. Love this post! Thank you so much for sharing.
    I agree woth Shelly DS! My situation is a reflection like hers. Moved, married, kid. My last relationship I just walked away (it was for the best and the best decision I ever made) but I forgot about closure. I’ve been thinking of writing out a letter and throwing it away. If only to let go of those loose ends.
    You’re right it most definitely a process and it is always ok to walk away if its not right. For all involved.

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    1. I think even when we have moved on, its still hard to actually move on emotionally because of the lack of closure. I think it will help you to do that! Just get out your feelings then burn it or cut it up and throw it away. Hopefully it can help 😊

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  5. I like the point about sometimes it isn’t you. I’ve been in a relationship where when it ended I was hurt, but they did me a huge favor because we didn’t want the same things ( or he didn’t want it with me).

    It’s kinda weird because I’m cordial with all my ex’s. Most the time they try to get back with me. I don’t do second chances.

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    1. Its easy to get wrapped up in your own thoughts and feelings which is natural, because they are yours! But its also good to think outside of yourself and consider others too.
      Thats a good thing, being on good terms with ex relationships or friendships is good for everybody.
      Thank you for commenting and sharing your thoughts😊

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  6. Nice post Olivia, I have something similar titled how to get him off your mind. Closure is important, we don’t heal by suppressing but by releasing so we have to let it out and make our feelings known to the other person.

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  7. Loved this post, very well written and helpful! Toxic friendships have been a problem for me in the past, I have loved the person however whenever I spent time around them I’d feel physically drained or come away feeling hurt by some of the comments they had just casually said during conversation. You feel bad for needing that person out of your life but at the end of the day you need to put your own happiness and mental health first and the best way to do that is letting go. πŸ’œπŸ’œ

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    1. Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been in that situation also. Its better for yourself and for them sometimes if you just cut ties with them. Its important you protect your mental health as a priority! πŸ’•

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  8. I like this blog post a lot!! Sometimes it is not just letting go of toxic friendships, but ones where the friendship has drifted apart and there is no point of holding on to it.

    I think another tip I would give is not to hold grudges after letting go of a friendship or relationship. Yes the other friend/relationship may have hurt you a lot, but holding grudges will only delay the process in getting over it.

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  9. I agree with all your points.
    I went through something similar a while ago and it taught me to accept my feelings even if they’re negative. It took me a loooooong time to form boundaries with a lot of people, and like you mentioned it’s a process. Not sure if I can just walk away.
    However, accepting that my relationship with them had to change has helped me find peace.

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    1. We always try to shy away from negative feelings but that doesn’t help our mental health. Facing things head on is always the best way rather than shying away from it.
      Its a painful experience when you feel a relationship ending, either friendship or a romantic relationship. Its uncomfortable and confusing but like you said, we must find peace. For our own sanity.
      Thanks for your comment!

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  10. Staying in a relationship that is not positively beneficial for you is not worth it, I think. ‘Cause I believe relationships should embody mutual love or care. So if you’re the one always carrying the relationship I think it’s best to walk away.πŸ’š

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    1. Slow and steady wins the race!
      To properly heal it takes time. And im sure you’d rather heal properly and it take a long time than healing fast and not healing at all!
      Im glad you were able to overcome the hurt. Power to you!

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  11. Olivia, distance and time make some friendships fade away, especially as we grow older and travel less. It’s sad, but I guess it’s inevitable. I try to hold onto memories of happy times and not be stressed about it. Thank you for your helpful article about how to find closure. All the best! Cheryl

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  12. “Sometimes it’s not about you”. Yes, I am practicing this. I’m trying hard to be graceful. Sigh.

    Great post, very timely for me to read. Thank you.

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