We have all been there. We’ve gotten to a point where a friendship or relationship just isn’t working for us anymore, we don’t know what to do. We know we must walk away from them but we don’t know how. Hopefully I can provide some useful tips for you all in this post. I’m no expert but I’ll do my best to give you as much knowledge as I can around this tough subject.
Please remember that I don’t know your situation, so this advice may be relevant and it may not. Thats just how things are sometimes, but I’ll do my best to be as broad as I can!
Sometimes its Not About You
There are occasions where the reason why the friendship or relationship has ended isn’t because of something you did. When people abruptly end friendships/relationships often times it says a lot more about them than it does about you. I know it’s hard, especially when there are no answers. Always think about their feelings too, they might be going through something that you don’t know about. Learn to have grace with people.
Try to Get Closure If You Can
Write a letter, text or email to them or meet up if they are willing to talk it out. Sometimes these things happen due to mis-communication. Even if you don’t end up sending the letter or text or email, its good to just get it out of your system. Ending something on good terms is always favoured than ending on bad terms.
Just Walk Away
Sometimes holding onto something thats not there anymore hurts you both more. Its okay to walk away and do what’s best for you. Sometimes staying and fighting for something isn’t worth the stress it comes with.
It’s a Process
Almost like mourning the death of what could have been, its a process just the same. You are no longer speaking with and communicating with that person anymore. It can be hard going from one extreme to the other, but it’s a healing process. With anything at first its hard, but we learn and adapt quite quickly as humans. You will get there, it might just take some time.
As I said at the beginning of this post, I don’t know what you’re going through. Whether its a bad break up or a friendship thats gone distant. I hope these tips can help you get through it.
Have you gone through this before? What tips can you share with us?
I hope this post was of help to you, and I hope you get through whatever it is you’re going through right now. There is light at the end of the tunnel always. Olivia x