Self-love is such an up and coming topic seen on blogs in 2020. Self-love and self empowerment is raging now more than ever. I wonder why that is? I think it’s because for years and years society has shaped a mould of how we should be living our lives and so many more people are coming out to say they don’t fit the mould and don’t want to. I am here for it. In todays post we will go through a quick lesson on what self-love is, what it looks like and some truths about it too, which will hopefully teach us all a little more about the topic.
WHAT IS SELF-LOVE?
Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.Dr. Andrea Brandt
Self love comes in various forms, it’s not black or white. What is self love to me might not be self love to you and thats the beauty of it. We all have our own definition of what practicing self love is to us.
WHAT DOES SELF-LOVE LOOK LIKE?
Self-love looks like you doing what you can to look after you and your well being. Its looks like you being at your happiest even though your circumstances aren’t the best. It looks like you choosing to stay in and look after your mental health instead of doing something you don’t want to. I could keep going and going! There are so many forms of self-love, even self-care can be classed as self-love. You are caring for yourself because you love yourself.
HOW DO WE PRACTICE IT?
I did a post recently that outlined 5 steps to self love, here is a small excerpt of what I wrote over there:
‘ Letting go of friendships or relationships can be such a huge step of self-love. Protecting myself from negative energies and negative people is one of the best things I’ve ever done. Its a very hard process sometimes but one that is essential in starting to learn what you deserve from other people. You deserve kindness, respect and love from others. And if they aren’t living up to that then they need to go. Its also important, as the people you surround yourself with can affect your life so much. If you are around negative people, then you will eventually turn into that type of person too. ‘
Thats just one way we can practice self love. Head over to the post and check out the other points I have made, I hope you find them helpful.
THE TRUTH ABOUT SELF-LOVE
The journey to self-love won’t be easy. You might have to face some of your biggest fears and let go of things you have clinged to for a long time. If you think about it, its re-learning a new way of thinking and having to programme your brain to change your mindset. Even writing that down I realise how hard it sounds to achieve. But you can do it, it might take some hard work but nothing great came easy.
One thing I have realised is that you won’t achieve this in a short amount of time, heck you might not even achieve it at all in your lifetime. Remember It takes 30 days to create a habit and you have to do that for every part of your being. The part that hates your appearance, the part that doesn’t think you’re good enough, the part that battles anxiety or depression – just to name a few. It’s a long journey, but one worth taking.
BUT IT’S REWARDING
I wanted to finish this post on a high note. I’ve explained already how hard and how long this self-love journey is, but boy let me tell you how rewarding it is too. When you have been working so hard on yourself and you finally get a breakthrough, its the best feeling in the world. I noticed a change when I got asked to describe myself in 5 words and one of them included the word ‘beautiful’. Now I don’t want to come across like I have a big ego or I am big headed, but for many years I have hated myself especially my appearance. And for the first time ever in my 25 years of life I described myself as beautiful. Wow, what a feeling that was! And this is what I want for you, to feel that feeling of achievement that I have so far on my journey.
Are you on your self-love journey? What are you learning about yourself? What are some of the hardships you’ve had to face? Share with us in the comments below.
I hope this post could give some help to those are wanting to start their self love journey but aren’t sure what it is or what they need to do. We are all here for you, and let me tell you. You are about to embark on the best journey of all, it will hard but it will be worth it.