It’s a natural thing to worry about things that you care about. My mom always told me that nerves and worry were always a good thing, because it means you care. But there is a fine line between worrying and over worrying/becoming obsessive. As a blogger there are many things that run through our minds at all times. Will they read my content, will I get comments and follows, will people like me? Those are just some of the questions I have asked myself in the past. I understand its hard to not think about those things, you are putting your work out there! It can be scary because its the unknown.
Today I thought I’d outline four things that we as bloggers need to care less about. In hopes this helps a struggling blogger out there who is finding themselves worrying about their blog alot. We have all been there, and some of us might be right there with you now.
I thought I’d start off with the most common thing bloggers worry about and thats stats. I can’t write this and say that I have never been obsessed or found myself worrying over my stats. We have almost been programmed to think that to be successful we must have thousands of followers and alot of views. But thats not the case! Your work will speak for itself and people will see you for who you are, not how many views you get. Quality not quantity.
It took me a while to not be obsessed about how many views, likes and follows I got on my blog. It’s easy to fall into the trap of being stressed that nobody is liking what you post, but remember that likes and follows are not a representation of you as a person and they do not define you. The bloggers you see with thousands of followers on their blogs or Instagram accounts, have worked hard to gain that following, it can take years and years to grow your community. It didn’t happen overnight, be patient.
KEEPING TO A SCHEDULE
Previously I have spoken about blogging and schedules and how important I think they are in order to grow and establish yourself as a blogger, and I still think that is true. But there is a flip side, if you’re stressing yourself out and finding it difficult to stick to your schedule then change it. If there is a day where you are finding it hard to post because you have too much going on, then skip a day. It can be really hard to balance your blogging around an already full schedule. Don’t worry about skipping a day, you aren’t letting anybody down.
We put this pressure on ourselves, and we need to remember that we are the only ones that are in charge of how often or little we post. I have had so many conversations with fellow blogger friends who are so worried about not posting, but in reality its okay to not post if you don’t want to or you physically don’t have the time.
With anything relating to the internet there will be negativity. I remember when I received my first negative comment, I deleted it and moved on. You know who you are as a person, more than a random stranger online and thats what I will remind myself if it happens again. Lucky for us, the blogging world seems to be a more positive place than other corners of the internet. I don’t know about you, but I am thankful for that.
If you find you cant just brush it off, just don’t dwell on it for a long time. Acknowledge it and move on from it. Think about all of the positive comments you get from others and focus on those. Doing this will help you to shift your mindset to a more positive one.
Comparing yourself to other bloggers is a really tough thing to not do. You start to question yourself and your own abilities and wonder why you aren’t growing as fast as they are or why you might not be as ‘popular’. Remember we are all on our own blogging journeys, don’t compare yourself to anyone else. You are not them, they are not you.
Also try to not worry about other bloggers in the sense of competition. I personally haven’t ever felt this in the blogging community but I’m sure there are people out there who have this mentality. As I have already said, you are on your own journey. We are a community of people who share the love of blogging, there is no competition between us we are on the same team.
What do you worry about as a blogger? How have you overcome some of those feelings of worry?
Remember why you started your blog and remind yourself of that when you find yourself worrying about trivial things. Remember your purpose and why you are doing what you’re doing. You are doing great!