How to be authentic. I was scrolling through TikTok the other night [as I do most nights] & I came across a video of someone contemplating the idea that if we look at everyone’s lives as individual story books, the characters we are portrayed in said books will look different to each person. We could be the one who got away in one story while we could be the evil villian in another. How we are perceived tends to be different than how we really are. We all wear masks. And this isn’t trying to be some metaphorical pandemic controversial statement. We’ve always been wearing masks. Before, they were just more invisible.
I’m guilty of acting one way around one person & completely different around another, I’m a chameleon of sorts & mold into my surroundings. I would say I’m more shy around strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I’m kind to those who deserve it & rude to those who don’t. I’m outspoken in my writing & private when I speak. My style changes with the seasons & so do my moods. When we have so many versions of ourselves, how do we truly know the definition of being authentic?
TAKE EVERYONE ELSE OUT OF THE EQUATION
I think to get to the route of authenticity, we need to take everyone else out of the equation. At this time we don’t need the opinions of your significant other, your boss, your parents, your friends & even your pet! Lol [ although I do believe the most unconditional love is from your fur babies – but I digress]. To really understand who we are & who we wish to be, we need to reflect simply with ourselves. Me myself & I. If it helps you can stare at your reflection in the mirror while you have this heart to heart. Whatever floats your boat.
At this very moment as you are reading this, ask yourself who you wish to be and how to be authentic. Let go of the judgments & opinions of others & just be with your own thoughts. Personally, I see myself as this outgoing, kind hearted, strong & bad ass woman. Some of you who know me in real life may read this & think, “she’s got it all twisted, that is not her AT ALL.” But this is my point. The characters we play in other people’s stories may 100% look different to your own. If someone calls you shy & introverted for instance & you feel in your heart you aren’t, let those statements roll off your shoulder. If someone looks at your social media & paints these assumptions about you based on the photos & how it may look, those feelings aren’t your truth.
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AUTHENTICITY IS RELATIVE
I asked on Twitter & Instagram the other day to send me assumptions of myself. And let me tell you, the statements were all over the place. Some assume I’m an introvert while others say I’m extroverted. Truth be told, I’m in the middle. Some people said, I’m afraid to get married while others said I can’t wait. The planning process is a lot to take in but I’m very stoked! I was even told I had 11 toes. LOL & no, I do in fact have ten toes but I’m not going to showcase my feet on the internet so assume away!
For just looking at my social media as reference, people come up with the most intricate conclusions like “you tell it like it is even if it upsets people.” To answer your question, I kind of dislike confrontation. I am working on being more blunt & vulnerable. But for the most part, I just like to keep the peace.
The bottom line is, authenticity is relative and it can be quite hard to learn how to be authentic. As long as you feel like your true self in your heart, that’s what should matter. It’s funny because as a blogger & someone who has somewhat of an online presence, I couldn’t believe the assumptions I recieved. I have people who question my commitment to a minimalist lifestyle, I have people who say I’m different online than I am in person. I share a lot more on my blog than with anyone in my real life. While others admire this side of me, other’s question it with rolled eyes. I think we all need to realize, we all wear masks. And that’s not either wrong or right. Sometimes it’s merely situational. We are all just trying to make it in this world & I think we all are doing it beautifully.
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Do you know how to be authentic? What tips or advice do you have? Do you feel as though you wear a mask?
If you liked this post, I’d love it if you stopped by my blog: Mind Beauty Simplicity where I talk about intentional living, self growth & other lifestyle topics to help become your best self. Thank you Olivia for giving me the opportunity to guest post on your blog! It is always an honor, my friend.