For years now, the idea self discovery has become something that alot of people have tried to obtain. We hear about people going through breakups and transitioning into new chapters in their life, and all they’re trying to do is find themselves again.
Recently I feel like I’ve been going through that. Every few years, I feel as though I transform and change into a different version of myself. Even 6 months ago, the person I was then isn’t who I am now. And I guess thats the beauty of growing as a human. But, what does it mean to try and find yourself? I’ve been trying to figure that out myself.
REALISE THE OLD YOU IS GONE
Something I have struggled with alot is that whilst I’ve been diving into self discovery, I’ve been trying to get back to the old me. Something clicked one day, and I realise that I shouldn’t be trying to go back to the old me. I should be embracing and finding a new version of myself. The old me isn’t as strong, and independent as I am now. She isn’t as confident as I am now. Why would I want to go back and become her?
You have to almost accept that the past versions of yourself have gone. And you have to look forward to what you could become. Once you accept that, you’re on the right path to become who you’re meant to be.
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TRY NEW THINGS & EXPLORE YOUR PASSIONS
If you’re wanting to find yourself and become a new version of you, then you cant keep doing what you’ve always done. You have to branch out and try new things. Pick up a new hobby and explore your passions. Discover what makes you happy.
You have to ask yourself – If you keep doing the same thing over and over again, do you really think you’re going to get a different result every time? No, of course you won’t. The whole point of finding yourself is changing. Change isn’t bad and anybody who tells you that you’ve changed, say thank you. We are meant to change and grow as people. I just told you that the person I was 6 months ago, isn’t the same person who I am today. And that is a wonderful thing.
START RELYING ON YOURSELF
Nobody else is going to help you on this journey. Nobody else will be there for you as much as yourself. You are your own cheerleader and support system. Rely on yourself as much as you can. Build that trust in yourself to know that you can do things that you once thought was hard.
I ran a half marathon this year. 3 Hours of running. A year ago I would never have been able to do that, or even attempt to do it. You know how I got through it? Believing in myself. Training as hard as I could because I knew I could do it even when it got tough. You discover who you are when you’re faced with those hard battles. Those times when you’re mentally exhausted, and physically tired. Those are the times where you discover what you’re made of.
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DO THE HARD STUFF
Your self discovery journey might not be easy or even pretty. It might be tough. You might have to face some things you’ve been trying to hide from. But, if you want to discover who you truly are, then just do it. Find out what your deepest, darkest demons are. And face them. You’ll soon see how facing those hard things helps you to grow as a person. It’s not easy, but it will be worth it.
GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
It’s quite a common thing that alot of people out there don’t really know themselves. And, how are others meant to know your authentic self if you don’t know yourself first? Getting to know yourself could be discovering what your passions are in life. It could be unlearning the bad behaviours that you’ve been doing all of your life. Or it could just simply be discovering what makes you happy.
You have to live in your own body for the rest of your life. Get to know who you are, what you like. And do all of this through trial and error. You could try something and you don’t like it, and thats okay. Move onto the next thing.
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FREE YOURSELF FROM THE COMFORT ZONE
Have you ever heard the saying “Nothing great comes from the comfort zone”? It’s so true. I can vouch for the fact that nothing I have ever done of worth has ever come from being in my comfort zone. We should search those uncomfortable places, because often thats where we find who we truly are.
If you’re on a self discovery journey, get out of that comfort zone you’ve been in. Learn to live in the uncomfortable moments. They are the ones that will make you truly become who you’re meant to be.