Self care sounds pretty simple. And as research reveals, it’s beneficial in many ways. Although it takes a conscious effort, you may sometimes feel like you’re struggling to meet your self-care goals. Several factors could account for this, and identifying why you find looking after yourself difficult is the first step in helping you progress. So, are you wondering why taking good care of yourself is challenging for you sometimes? Here are four possible reasons why.
1. YOU MISTAKE IT FOR BEING SELFISH
Yes, self-care involves making yourself a priority, but many people can get trapped with guilt, believing it is synonymous with selfishness. However, that’s not true. Equating looking after yourself to self-responsibility, not selfishness, can prove helpful. Remember that caring for yourself does not take away from others. Keeping this in mind will help make your self-care journey more rewarding without you feeling guilty. And while doing this, surround yourself with positive people who will give you all the encouragement you need.
2. YOU’RE FAILING TO ASK FOR HELP
You don’t have to do everything independently, especially when facing challenges. Sometimes, some habits may make your self-care more challenging, such as food addiction, drug abuse, pornography addiction, and alcoholism. In such instances, seeking help as early as possible is best to deal with them effectively. Don’t be afraid to open up about your feelings and your challenges. Being honest about your feelings and struggles will help make things easier for you to get your self-care back on track.
3. YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH
Another reason why looking after yourself may feel like such a challenge is that you’re failing to love yourself. Regardless of how little you think or feel about yourself, you’re worthy of love. And no one can love you better than yourself. If you love yourself, self-care will come more naturally. Learning to love, value yourself, and see your self-worth is a process that involves some practice. You’ll be more intentional about looking after yourself as you consistently do it.
4. YOU’RE CONFUSING INDULGENCE WITH SELF CARE
Practicing self-care the wrong way can quickly spiral into indulgence. Of course, looking after yourself may require you to indulge in some luxuries, but when it gets out of hand, it stops being beneficial. According to research, everyone has a threshold for self-care and indulgence, which differs from person to person. In other words, one person’s self-caring indulgence can lead someone else to self-harm. A typical example is diet and eating habits. Enjoying dessert every day may be great for people with good weight control. But for anyone struggling with weight and health issues, it can be the gateway to self-harm. Therefore, it’s best to identify what works best for you, so you don’t exceed your limit. You can identify your threshold in various ways. For instance, once you start feeling unhappy or guilty about what you’re indulging in or how much, it may indicate that you need to evaluate yourself and cut back on some things.
Keeping the above-listed reasons in mind will help you know what to avoid on your self-care journey and make it more rewarding.