Reflection is such a beautiful thing. Seeing how far you have grown and how much you have achieved as you look back is the biggest motivator. It can also be a big wake up call too. Even in the last year I feel like I’ve grown so much as a woman. And it got me thinking about things I’d tell my old self. Not even my child self, but even my self from 6 months ago.
Growth is such a huge part of life. Honestly I see it as such a compliment when people tell me I have changed. Like heck yes I have, we’re all meant to change. Who wants to stay the same?
FRIENDS WILL COME AND GO
Over the years we all go through various different stages of life where we have an abundance of friends, and then suddenly in your mid twenties (or whenever it may be) you find your friendship circle becoming less and less. I really used to struggle with this, that is until one day my mom gave me some great advice. It was basically that friendships come and go and are for a reason not a season. It was hard to understand at first but now, as I am older I get it.
I’ve had friendships that have lasted years and years, and then some have been short. But, each of them I have learnt something so valuable about people. Sometimes you need each other only for a short while, and once that time is up it’s time to part ways. And although I hate that, maybe that was just life’s purpose at the time.
Friendships will come and go just like everything else in life.
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YOU HAVE TIME
When I was younger I constantly felt like I didn’t have time. I had to be married and have kids and buy a house as soon as I hit 25 because omg 25 is old! Oh how wrong was i. So many brilliant and amazing people live life in their twenties and once they hit 30 they do all of the ‘adult’ stuff like get married and start families.
If like me you’re in your late twenties, trust me you’re not old. I like to see it as I’m a 10 year old adult. I’ve only been officially an adult for 10 years. Thats so young! You don’t have to have everything figured out yet. Plus you’ll start to realise that really nobody ever has it all figured out. We all just go with the flow.
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LIFE IS A BEAUTIFUL ROLLERCOASTER
Just like a rollercoaster life will have those highs and the lows. And one thing I’d say to my younger self is to embrace them, those moments are what will make you who you are.
How are we to ever appreciate the highs when we don’t ever experience any lows? Embrace those hard times because they don’t last forever. Yes they’re hard at the time but look for the lesson in them. The lows are always there to teach you something. What are they teaching you? To be more resilient, to be more confident to know your self worth, to name a few.
Life will never be rainbows and sunshine without a little bit of rain. And thats so cliche but it’s so true.
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don’t forget those friendships….and those times, school, junior, high school, keep those connections…and make use of all that time before real life comes as adults….my one regret is that I didn’t, now, I find I’m reconnecting with a few thanks to facebook, and some that I didn’t really know, have re-connected…those things were so special, some got me through some tuff times even as adults..
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Very very true! I have also found that old High school friends reach out every now and then to re-connect and catch up!
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So much wisdom in this post. I for sure have learnt that riding the highs and lows of life are essential. And it’s possible to experience both joy and sorrow, highs and lows simultaneously. During my dark days, I find solace in knowing that “this too, shall pass.”
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Something I have learnt similar to this is also that happiness is fleeting. We all seem to strive for happiness all of the time, but thats unattainable. We have to have those bad moments, to then know what it feels like to be happy!
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You’re right it is …. life doesn’t look the same as it was when you get older.
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Thats the beauty of life 🙂
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I’ve definitely learnt that not all friendships are meant to be forever and that’s okay. My time of “when I need to do things by” has definitely altered as I’ve gotten older too.
I’d tell myself that I’m much stronger than I ever thought I would or could be, something I’ve learnt again in this past month.
Great post.
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I love this so much! Sometimes I wish I could go back and re-learn everything I know now
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I wouldn’t be who I am today if the events in my life didn’t play out the way that they did. Even all of the dark times (and there were years and years of them) have molded me, taught me, and enabled me to be able to relate to and help others who are experiencing or have experienced the same kind of traumas I did so the only thing that I would tell myself is that it will work out for the good in the long run. And I would have strengthened my relationship with God a lot sooner so that I wouldn’t have felt so alone in the darkness.
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Thanks for sharing this Mandie. You dont often hear of how the dark times can actually shape us into who we are today.
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