You’re probably reading this title, like Olivia why would I want to show grace to people who are unkind? Well, research shows that there are several reasons why someone is a mean or unkind person. A lot of it has to do with how people have treated them in the past, a lack of self confidence, treating you how they feel about themselves – this is called projection and various other psychological reasons. I think that unkind people need the most love. It can be hard to do this, because how can you force yourself to show someone love who was mean to you? Well todays post talks about how we can take steps to be more graceful to others.
SHOW SYMPATHY AND EMPATHY
You really don’t know what anyone is going through. The lady who was rude to you at the supermarket might have just lost her dad. The man who swore at you whilst you drove past might have just been fired from his job. You really don’t know what people are going through. One of my very first jobs was working in a supermarket, and if you’ve ever worked in a customer facing job then you know how hard it can be to deal with people. I had to many people yell at me for minor inconveniences they faced, and I remember always trying to tell myself that I don’t know what they are going through or suffering with.
I think if its was the other way round, and it was me being rude to someone because I had a bad day or I found out some bad news. I’d want people to show me grace. Now by showing grace that doesn’t mean that you have to tolerate their behaviour, it just means that you can understand and empathise with them. You don’t act out of anger or hate back towards them, It’s showing them kindness when they are being unkind to you.
DON’T ARGUE BACK
This one is a hard one. It’s not easy to be quiet and not say anything when someone is coming at you. Please remember to protect your own feelings and your own wellbeing before entering into any argument or conversation with an unpleasant person. You have to think and remember that the person might not be ready to hear what you have to say, and if thats the case then don’t say it. There is no point in arguing with a person who will not see your point of view.
Thats it, plain and simple. If you have the chance to walk away then do it. Some battles are best to not get into. As I said already, consider your own feelings and whether it’s something you wish to participate in. Sometimes the other person wants a confrontation and wants a reaction from you so they do whatever they can to push your buttons.