4 Ways To Deal With Unkind People Gracefully

You’re probably reading this title, like Olivia why would I want to show grace to people who are unkind? Well, research shows that there are several reasons why someone is a mean or unkind person. A lot of it has to do with how people have treated them in the past, a lack of self confidence, treating you how they feel about themselves – this is called projection and various other psychological reasons. I think that unkind people need the most love. It can be hard to do this, because how can you force yourself to show someone love who was mean to you? Well todays post talks about how we can take steps to be more graceful to others.


You really don’t know what anyone is going through. The lady who was rude to you at the supermarket might have just lost her dad. The man who swore at you whilst you drove past might have just been fired from his job. You really don’t know what people are going through. One of my very first jobs was working in a supermarket, and if you’ve ever worked in a customer facing job then you know how hard it can be to deal with people. I had to many people yell at me for minor inconveniences they faced, and I remember always trying to tell myself that I don’t know what they are going through or suffering with.


I think if its was the other way round, and it was me being rude to someone because I had a bad day or I found out some bad news. I’d want people to show me grace. Now by showing grace that doesn’t mean that you have to tolerate their behaviour, it just means that you can understand and empathise with them. You don’t act out of anger or hate back towards them, It’s showing them kindness when they are being unkind to you.


This one is a hard one. It’s not easy to be quiet and not say anything when someone is coming at you. Please remember to protect your own feelings and your own wellbeing before entering into any argument or conversation with an unpleasant person. You have to think and remember that the person might not be ready to hear what you have to say, and if thats the case then don’t say it. There is no point in arguing with a person who will not see your point of view.


Thats it, plain and simple. If you have the chance to walk away then do it. Some battles are best to not get into. As I said already, consider your own feelings and whether it’s something you wish to participate in. Sometimes the other person wants a confrontation and wants a reaction from you so they do whatever they can to push your buttons.

Do you find it hard dealing with unkind people? Do you react? Or do you walk away?


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90 thoughts on “4 Ways To Deal With Unkind People Gracefully

  1. Very good advice! We might want to react aggressively to unkind people but sometimes the best solution is to be nice, don’t react, and don’t let it get to you. Sometimes you just gotta kill ’em with kindness as they say lol

    1. Yep so true! Most of the time, the hurt person wants to get a reaction out of you. And when you don’t give them one they aren’t sure what to do next. Kindness will always win 🤗

  2. These are brilliant tips! 🙌 I find that when people’s rudeness is so direct/obvious & personal it helps to stay calm and carry on as normal (if in a conversation) as then they see that you’re not easy to bring down if it was intentional 💫. The points you mentioned are so important and will help many, great post! 💕

  3. This is a really nice post 🙂
    I definitely need to start implementing the above things when dealing with such people. I often find myself arguing and getting my days ruined by them.
    Have a lovely weekend !

    1. Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed!
      I think its a normal human reaction to want to defend yourself and argue your point across too, but as you said it ruins your day. Walking away is hard but it means your day remains unaffected.

  4. Empathy can be a powerful tool with rude people. Really nice detailed post. I am going to just walk away from people like this, it’s much better then to let negativity ruin anything.

  5. I find it quite difficult to deal with unkind people.The worst part is that i don’t walk away,I actually retaliate.I do wish i could handle them better but i guess I have to give myself some time.

  6. Walking away and showing empathy is all we can do while dealing with unkind people.

    What a post✨ Recently, loving all the ideas you are coming up with —great job Olivia🧡 xx

  7. Thanks for the post, Liv! They’re so educational. Honestly, I just shut my moth because then if I don’t I fire up a comeback and you’re not supposed to argue back and it works wonders! I get more calmer and eventually it automatically deals with itself!

  8. Thanks for tackling this topic! I really think it is important to stay graceful when that happens as graceful does not mean “weak”. On the contrary, it is showing that you are elegant and mature no matter what so thank you. 🌸

  9. Trying not to argue back can be really difficult sometimes I must say. It demands some level of self control. Walking away does it for me, because staying without arguing sometimes my emotions are unpredictable.
    Loved all points 💚

  10. This is the most helpful thing I’ve read today. Honestly some people can be hard to deal with but then I’ve read this and I know what to do. I also know that God gives grace to help us know how to react.

    1. So glad you found this helpful! You’re right, it can be really tough. God knows what we can and cant handle too, and I get so much peace knowing that 🤗

  11. The people in my own town would want to fight if someone even took a parking spot from them. That’s why we decided to move 😪 now i learned to not get angry BACK if i ever come across those people.

    Once a lady opened her car door and slammed MINE and got mad at both me and her infant. She said “you better stop crying or else this lady gonna fight us for her not parking correctly” omg … the headache. I was upset she actually talked to her child that way. Obviously i could tell she had way too many issues so i didn’t even bother.

    1. Not everybody in the world will be kind, but I think it shows so much courage and says so much about a person when you see how they react in certain situations. We aren’t all perfect, and thats what makes us human. We all make mistakes and say and do things we don’t mean. I think leaving a situation like that is for the best, sometimes people want to just drag us down with them!
      Thanks for sharing that!

  12. Wonderful post! Everyone of us would face someone unkind at some point of time, I feel it is better (rather easier) to walk away from such people. 🙂

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