You’re probably reading this title, like Olivia why would I want to show grace to people who are unkind? Well, research shows that there are several reasons why someone is a mean or unkind person. A lot of it has to do with how people have treated them in the past, a lack of self confidence, treating you how they feel about themselves – this is called projection and various other psychological reasons. I think that unkind people need the most love. It can be hard to do this, because how can you force yourself to show someone love who was mean to you? Well todays post talks about how we can take steps to be more graceful to others.
SHOW SYMPATHY AND EMPATHY
You really don’t know what anyone is going through. The lady who was rude to you at the supermarket might have just lost her dad. The man who swore at you whilst you drove past might have just been fired from his job. You really don’t know what people are going through. One of my very first jobs was working in a supermarket, and if you’ve ever worked in a customer facing job then you know how hard it can be to deal with people. I had to many people yell at me for minor inconveniences they faced, and I remember always trying to tell myself that I don’t know what they are going through or suffering with.
REMEMBER..
I think if its was the other way round, and it was me being rude to someone because I had a bad day or I found out some bad news. I’d want people to show me grace. Now by showing grace that doesn’t mean that you have to tolerate their behaviour, it just means that you can understand and empathise with them. You don’t act out of anger or hate back towards them, It’s showing them kindness when they are being unkind to you.
DON’T ARGUE BACK
This one is a hard one. It’s not easy to be quiet and not say anything when someone is coming at you. Please remember to protect your own feelings and your own wellbeing before entering into any argument or conversation with an unpleasant person. You have to think and remember that the person might not be ready to hear what you have to say, and if thats the case then don’t say it. There is no point in arguing with a person who will not see your point of view.
WALK AWAY
Thats it, plain and simple. If you have the chance to walk away then do it. Some battles are best to not get into. As I said already, consider your own feelings and whether it’s something you wish to participate in. Sometimes the other person wants a confrontation and wants a reaction from you so they do whatever they can to push your buttons.
Do you find it hard dealing with unkind people? Do you react? Or do you walk away?
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True… We really don’t know what anyone is going through
Better to walk away quietly 😊
We really don’t. I know it can be a hard thing to do, but I think it can be so much more beneficial than having an unnecessary argument with someone!
Definitely 😊and very true
So important with all that’s going on in the world right now 🙏🏼
I agree, we must all stick together and look out for one another 🤗
Very good advice! We might want to react aggressively to unkind people but sometimes the best solution is to be nice, don’t react, and don’t let it get to you. Sometimes you just gotta kill ’em with kindness as they say lol
Yep so true! Most of the time, the hurt person wants to get a reaction out of you. And when you don’t give them one they aren’t sure what to do next. Kindness will always win 🤗
absolutely
These are brilliant tips! 🙌 I find that when people’s rudeness is so direct/obvious & personal it helps to stay calm and carry on as normal (if in a conversation) as then they see that you’re not easy to bring down if it was intentional 💫. The points you mentioned are so important and will help many, great post! 💕
Thank Elsie! I agree! It shows how strong you are doesnt it and stops them from thinking you can be walked all over.
Thank you for sharing that🤍
Beautiful and poignant Olivia! I love the quote in the picture too 😊❤
Thank you! So glad u enjoyed it 🧐
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Such a sweet gesture of you to share such an informative and helpful post full of kindness reflecting your humble nature.
Thank you so much 🤍 you just made my day
This is so relatable. I have no idea why but I seem to be surrounded by so many unkind people who just want to be unkind for the fun of it! I could never imagine doing so myself. Thank you for these tips.
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I’m so sorry, it must be difficult being around people like that. I hope that you can find new people who are good, kind and positive 💛
Nice post. I usually just walk away because I don’t have the strength to argue and throw words back and forth plus it saves me the drama.
Yes I love this, I don’t either! Which is why I often leave it alone or speak to the person once they have calmed down!
Yes, that’s the best thing to do.
This is a really nice post 🙂
I definitely need to start implementing the above things when dealing with such people. I often find myself arguing and getting my days ruined by them.
Have a lovely weekend !
Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed!
I think its a normal human reaction to want to defend yourself and argue your point across too, but as you said it ruins your day. Walking away is hard but it means your day remains unaffected.
Empathy can be a powerful tool with rude people. Really nice detailed post. I am going to just walk away from people like this, it’s much better then to let negativity ruin anything.
It really is, a lot of the time people want you to react and get mad. Just walk away, its not worth your mental health or happiness!
Nice post..very true and loved it👍
Thank you!’
Your posts are always worth reading. ♥️
Aw you are so kind 🤍 thank u so much
I find it quite difficult to deal with unkind people.The worst part is that i don’t walk away,I actually retaliate.I do wish i could handle them better but i guess I have to give myself some time.
It can be such a challenge cant it? Its a lesson we all learn but at our own pace ☺️
I totally agree with all the points..it’s tough I know but best for us
It really is tough, but as you said its the best for us!
I still try to be kind. I am one of those ppl that gets afraid to hurt people’s feelings! Also, you never know what ppl are going through. Great post!
Yup you really dont! Theres always a reason why people are the way they are! We just need to care for eachother ☺️
Yes! Absolutely love this post 💕
Thank you 🥰
Walking away and showing empathy is all we can do while dealing with unkind people.
What a post✨ Recently, loving all the ideas you are coming up with —great job Olivia🧡 xx
It really is, its the best way to show love 🥰
Thank you so much for your support! Xx
Thanks for this post, we all have to learn to practice compassion, as you said, you never know what someone is dealing with.
We really don’t. Its so important to remain kind when we can 🥰
Thanks for the post, Liv! They’re so educational. Honestly, I just shut my moth because then if I don’t I fire up a comeback and you’re not supposed to argue back and it works wonders! I get more calmer and eventually it automatically deals with itself!
MOUTH OH MAH GAWD, MOUTH SORRY SORRY
amazing work
Thanks for tackling this topic! I really think it is important to stay graceful when that happens as graceful does not mean “weak”. On the contrary, it is showing that you are elegant and mature no matter what so thank you. 🌸
Exactly. You never know what someone else is going through
You really don’t!
Thank you for this post! These are the kind of things I like to read about.
You’re so welcome, thanks for reading!
Yep, totally agree with everything you said. Some people are not worth your time to argue with, so simply just walk away. 😊
Yep! Save your own happiness and walk away!
Great tips! Walking away works best for me but usually unkind people get to me and pull me down. 🙈
Thank you! It can be hard to not get dragged into their drama cant it!?
I totally agree with you in this. Great tips.😍♥️
Thank you!!
My pleasure ☺️
As I deal with people in ministry on a regular basis, you would be amazed how many pastors don’t see this as common knowledge. I’ll be sharing this.
I can imagine being in Ministry you deal with alot of unkind people too!
Thanks for sharing ☺️
It’s bad that names came to mind as I was reading.
Oh i can imagine 😂 you get unkind people everywhere, they’re the ones that need to be saved the most!
Trying not to argue back can be really difficult sometimes I must say. It demands some level of self control. Walking away does it for me, because staying without arguing sometimes my emotions are unpredictable.
Loved all points 💚
Oh it can for sure be so difficult! It takes a strong person to do that!
Glad you enjoyed the post!
I really like what I read here. They are very practical.
Thank you, so glad you enjoyed!
I love this! Great reminders.
Thank you, glad you enjoyed!
You’re welcome.
Very true and don’t argue back – the fruit of self control (I should exercise that more often). Love all the points 👍🏾
I think we could all learn abit more self control in various parts of our lives!
Being more mindful about conflict with unkind people and using the tips you suggest means much more positive mental health all round. Great suggestions 👍
I agree, it can make such a difference!
As I approach a delicate situation later today I will take your advice! Empathy and not arguing back is great advice. I will hold onto that! Great article!
I hope it goes well for you today, I’ll be thinking of you! You got this!
This is the most helpful thing I’ve read today. Honestly some people can be hard to deal with but then I’ve read this and I know what to do. I also know that God gives grace to help us know how to react.
So glad you found this helpful! You’re right, it can be really tough. God knows what we can and cant handle too, and I get so much peace knowing that 🤗
Yeah sister! Absolutely! Thank you for the amazing post. Love and light always!
Love this!
Thank you!
You’re most welcome!
“Kindness” is one of the most powerful elements in this world. Be nice even if you can’t get the same treat from people.
So true 👏🏻👏🏻
The people in my own town would want to fight if someone even took a parking spot from them. That’s why we decided to move 😪 now i learned to not get angry BACK if i ever come across those people.
Once a lady opened her car door and slammed MINE and got mad at both me and her infant. She said “you better stop crying or else this lady gonna fight us for her not parking correctly” omg … the headache. I was upset she actually talked to her child that way. Obviously i could tell she had way too many issues so i didn’t even bother.
Not everybody in the world will be kind, but I think it shows so much courage and says so much about a person when you see how they react in certain situations. We aren’t all perfect, and thats what makes us human. We all make mistakes and say and do things we don’t mean. I think leaving a situation like that is for the best, sometimes people want to just drag us down with them!
Thanks for sharing that!
Wonderful post! Everyone of us would face someone unkind at some point of time, I feel it is better (rather easier) to walk away from such people. 🙂
Thank you so much! I agree, sometimes it can be hard for people to do that but in the long run, I think its the better thing to do!
Such great tips and such an important post. Especially for anyone who’s online and will inevitably come across unkind people xxx
I hope so! xx
How’s it going, Olivia….how is your struggle with mean and unpleasant people?
Hey Jonathan!
Not so much a struggle anymore, I walked away! Which works best for me!
THE BEST WAY—IF THE ANTAGONIST IS INTRACTABLE! WE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR PERSONALITIES! 😀
When you’re the receiver of the unkindness, you might think you have all the right to fight back and be the one who deserves the forgiveness but sometimes, we just have to give those “rude” people time to express themselves. Just save your inner peace, walk away and pray he/she will get better. Great post! Love it.
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