To me a private life is a happy life. There are only a select few people I truly let in and know me fully. I have learnt the hard way on this subject because I was the person who was too trusting. I would let anyone in and share everything with them and I’d suffer the consequences afterwards when they’d share information about me to other people. It’s sad when it happens, because when you’re young you are very naive into thinking you could trust everyone, but thats not the case and you figure that out as you get older.
Having a balance between sharing things online and keeping things private is where I have got to, and I’m happy here. Being a blogger I have come to realise that its important even more to have this balance. I have spoken previously about why I decided to separate my private instagram from my blog instagram, and thats because I want to safeguard and protect myself and the people I know.
Putting yourself out there online you are opening yourself up to criticism and some pretty weird people on the other end of the internet. Not everyone has good intentions, so just for that reason it’s important to protect yourself and what you put out there. This post isn’t just about blogging and your online behaviour, it applies to in real life too and how you should take steps to make sure you are protecting you and your information.
On the flip side here I want to mention that its okay and good to share things with genuine, loving people who have your best interests at heart. This post is for those people who aren’t nice, who are negative and discouraging. Save your wins and your good news for the good people in your life!
YOU WON’T BE THE TALK OF THE TOWN
Keeping to yourself means that nobody has anything to say about you to other people. I come from a small town and I’m sure alot of you do too, and from my experience small towns are the worst for people gossiping and spreading other peoples business. By refraining from talking about your problems or your personal life you will reduce the risk of people talking about you to other people. It’s sad to think about, the fact you cant be open with people but it’s the sad fact of todays society.
NOBODY CAN CELEBRATE YOUR FAILURES
I tend to do this alot, but when I know something good is in the pipeline for me I only tend to tell a select few about the exciting up-coming news. All because I know those people will console me and not judge me if it falls through or doesn’t happen. Some people thrive off of others making mistakes and things failing for you, and it’s sad. I remember years ago when I got a new job and I finally left the job I had been at for years. I of course told my colleagues and remember only one or two being truly happy for my move up the career ladder. It really opened my eyes because true friends should be happy for you and your wins. And if they’re not, were they even true friends at all?
YOU AREN’T OPEN TO CRITICISM
Whether its your relationship you’re keeping on the down low or a promotion you just got, I think keeping it to yourself can be beneficial because then you aren’t open to other peoples criticism. I really hate it when people give me their advice when I didn’t ask for it, and when they think they know better. Its not helpful and unsolicited criticism has no place where I didn’t invite it in.
Keeping your business to yourself means that you aren’t clouded by other peoples judgement and it provides you with a clearer head to make decisions yourself. It also stops too many people chiming in on something and overwhelming you with too much advice, and that in itself can be stressful.
How do you keep your private life private? Do you stay off of social media or refrain from sharing your business with everyone?
I hope this post didn’t come across as too negative. I wanted to make sure I got all my points across that keeping yourself to yourself is a great way to stop alot of negativity coming into your life. And I think for alot of us, that is the goal.