I know writing to your younger self is such a cliche and overdone thing, but I have really wanted to do this for a while. I had so many expectations of how life was going to go when I was younger that have not been met. And I’m not sure if its because of my own expectations that I set or the fact nobody told me adult life would be this way. I did not sign up for this.
I guess as kids we are sheltered from alot of things. Knowing about sex and relationships and all of the ugly and evil things of this world. But I wish I would have known how hard growing up would be, and that it wouldn’t be easy. Perhaps my parents let me watch too many princess movies or reality tv and thats what warped my view of life. I mean I thought I’d be married with kids at 25, and for the record I am nowhere near ready for that.
For todays post I wanted to share some things that I wish I could say to my younger self. To the girl who didn’t know who she would become, or who she would fall in love with or what job she would do. I think she would have benefitted from hearing this.
YOU WON’T BE MARRIED WITH KIDS AT 25
Little Olivia. I remember that conversation you had with your friend on the playground at school. You were talking about what age you’d have kids and be married. I remember clearly, you saying it would be when you were around 25 years old. Oh how wrong you were.
I am now in fact 26, and still not anywhere near having kids or being married. Finding a life partner is harder than you think it’s going to be. The world is full of diamonds in the rough, who are hard to come by. But just know, you’ll find your Prince Charming one day. Hopefully sooner than later!
LIFE WON’T BE WHAT YOU THINK
You will grow up thinking the world is a beautiful and lovely place to be, and it is. Don’t get me wrong. But there is evil in this world. Don’t let it consume you, don’t be part of it. Grow up being the light that the world needs. Remember to be kind to those who may not deserve it. Love everything that God created. Stand firm in your faith. Your life will be hard young one, but you are tough.
Life is what you make it Olivia. Life is whatever you want it to be. It can be fun, it can be serious or it can be bad. Your decisions as a kid and teen will pave that path. So stay on the straight and narrow. Surround yourself with good, decent people. They will play such an important part of your life.
YOU WILL GO THROUGH TOUGH TIMES
Not everyday will be happy and full of good. You will lose people you love. You will be rejected for jobs and be rejected romantically. Prepare yourself for heartache. But remember to use that heartache to grow and flourish. For without the bad we would never appreciate the good. Don’t grow up thinking life will be peachy. Talk to people and listen to their stories of heartache. That will make you realise the journey you’re going to go on.
Just remember, through the tough times to remain positive and happy. Its okay if things don’t go your way. For that means that something better is yet to come.
YOU WILL DO GREAT THINGS
I wanted to end on a high and tell you that when you get older you will go on to do great things. And even beyond my age now, we will probably carry on doing great things. You will help people and be kind and caring to others. You’ll help people get out of bad places with the love you show them. You have so much love to give, don’t ever stop.
You’re going to end up in a job you didn’t expect to have, and thats okay. Having ambitions to be a Queen one day are great but we have to think realistically here. And no, you didn’t become a teacher like you once thought. But there is still time!
What things would you say to your younger self?
Do you have any words of advice to share?
A different kind of post today, but I found it fun going back and thinking of the things I thought I’d be. I found it to be a very humbling experience writing to my younger self. You should try it!