I really dislike confrontation, but I never let that get in the way of standing up for myself when I need to. It’s taken me a while to not let anxiety and self-doubt stop me from sticking up for myself and showing others that I won’t be walked over. I see it so often. Timid people being treated poorly, or spoken to with disrespect and them not having the courage to say anything back or stand up for themselves. I guess thats where my empathy comes in. If I know someone won’t do that for themselves, I often step in if I feel the need to. Nobody is getting taking advantage of, not on my watch.
When I say that its important to stand up for yourself, I don’t mean fighting or being rude and disrespectful. I mean putting your point across. Not letting others intimidate you or back you into a corner. I don’t advocate for being disrespectful to people or rude. The only time I will stand up for myself and be assertive is if I feel like thats how they are being with me. I’m very much a person who goes off someone else’s vibe towards me. It can be hard to keep your cool in those kind of situations. But, it’s important that you remember who you are.
I’ve had many instances already during my blogging journey where I have had to stand up for myself. Otherwise I would have been taken advantage of. I like to think people in the blogging community are genuine and real. But often there are times when a bad apple slips through the cracks. For todays post, I will be sharing some reasons why standing up for yourself is good, and how it can be beneficial to your life!
YOU BECOME STRONGER BECAUSE OF IT
Whenever I have successfully battled my own corner and expressed my feelings, I always come away from the situation feeling stronger. Confrontation and being met with a barrier can initiate the fight or flight in some people. If you would have asked me years ago if I was a fight or flight kind of person I would have said flight for sure. Its so much easier to run away from bad situations and bury your head in the sand. But what is that going to do? It won’t make you grow as a person and become stronger because of it.
Really you have to force yourself to fight in those situations – metaphorically of course.
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BOUNDARIES GET SET
An important thing to remember here is that standing up for yourself doesn’t always have to be aggressive and confrontational. Standing up for yourself could look like setting clear boundaries with people. There is more than one way to stick up for yourself in situations. Boundaries is something that I have only recently learnt to implement into my life. It can be hard sometimes to set them with the people you love. But ultimately, it’s important that we do it for us.
Boundaries are great things to set with people. If you have a boundary that you don’t want to talk about something, or take part in a particular activity. That is a boundary and that is you taking control of yourself and your own mental wellbeing. That is you sticking up for yourself.
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Do you feel like you stand up for yourself? Do you struggle with setting boundaries with people? Let me know in the comments!
Standing up for yourself is something that might take time to practice, especially if you need to unlearn old behaviours. But you can do it!