2022 is coming soon, and I think its time we talk about how we can protect your peace in the coming year. Of course this advice isn’t just for the new year! We should all learn to protect our peace always. Alot of people actually struggle doing this and I can understand why. Its hard sometimes to be selfish and put yourself first.
This is actually something new I have been learning this past year. It can be difficult to set boundaries and do things that make you happy and content. Putting yourself first doesn’t come naturally to everybody. I have heard this is especially hard for those who are parents. Which makes sense as you spend many years of your life putting your kids first. Or maybe you’re not a parent and you put your partner, your family or your friends before yourself. If that sounds like you, you’re in the right place.
Today I will be sharing some tips on how to protect your peace in the upcoming year!
SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
Something I have been learning this past year is setting healthy boundaries. I think boundaries are so important, and it’s important you communicate them to people if you have them. Boundaries are to be seen as something good and healthy. Don’t see them as barriers but instead see them as you respecting others and others respecting you. It’s all about standing up for yourself and protecting your feelings.
Maybe there’s a certain topic or situation you don’t feel comfortable talking about. Set the boundary. Maybe there is a place or a person you don’t wish to see or hear about. Set the boundary. Maybe you don’t want to take part in something. Set the boundary. Do you understand the message?
Always be clear with others what your boundaries are. If they don’t know then you can’t get mad for them crossing it.
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PUT YOUR FEELINGS FIRST
Alot of you will be reading this, knowing that putting your own feelings first is near impossible. But hear me out.
If you spend your life putting other peoples feelings before yours, you’re essentially neglecting yourself and your emotions. The way you feel is just as valid as how everybody else feels. Protect your peace. Put your feelings above others and see how good it feels. You are important and how you feel is important too.
Of course there are situations where others feelings must be put before yours. But that doesn’t need to be all of the time. If you spend all of your time worrying about other peoples feelings then you need to start putting your own first.
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CUT PEOPLE OFF
One of my favourite things to do to protect your peace is cutting people off. As I get older I have no issue in cutting people off who are not longer serving me or bringing me joy. Think about it, why would you keep someone in your life that causes you pain and upset? Thats not protecting your peace.
Your peace is so important. So don’t even feel bad for cutting off people who are no good for you. You owe that to yourself.
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WALK AWAY WHEN YOU NEED TO
Knowing when to walk away can actually be such a struggle. I have learnt over this last year that holding onto things we have outgrown can actually cause more damage to us in the long run. The more you hold on the more they dig into you and harm you. Walking away doesn’t mean that they won either, it means that you value how you feel more than having them in your life.
Walking away is one of the bravest things to do. So if you’ve done it or you are planning to, I salute you.
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