For most of my adult life I have had long distance friendships. Me and my friends maintain a pretty regular friendship with 4,000+ miles between us. We met when they came here to the UK from America. They came here for a semester (around 4 months) to study and work at the church I attend. Long distance friendships, similar to long distance relationships can be hard to maintain but I’m here today to tell you why they are so worth it.
YOU APPRECIATE THE TIME YOU DO SPEND TOGETHER
You may only see your friends one or twice or even less than that a year. So the time you do get to spend together is cherished so much more. You find yourself planning to do exciting things so you can fill up the little amount of time you have with memories. Its almost like you cram in everything they have missed out on since you’ve been apart into the time you actually do get together.
YOU BUILD A STRONGER BOND
I guess because you don’t see each other often you have to put more effort into your friendship. Which in turn means that your bond grows a lot stronger. You have to start thinking of creative ways for you to connect without being in person. Me and my friends read daily devotionals together, we FaceTime and call each other. And although we don’t spend that much time together in person, my friendships with my long distance friends aren’t much different to my other friendships.
YOU TRAVEL TOGETHER MORE
Me and my friends have travelled together to some pretty amazing places. Which would never have happened if we didn’t live thousands of miles apart. I’ve met up with friends in New York, we have travelled to the Bahamas, road tripped across America and so much more. And none of this would have happened if we lived in the same country. As hard as it is sometimes, being far apart has its benefits.
TIME DIFFERENCE CAN WORK IN YOUR FAVOUR
There has been many times where I needed a friend late at night, and everyone close to me (in distance) have been asleep. Well the trusty -5 hour time difference to my friends works wonderfully when you cant sleep or have a lot on your mind at night. It means that I have a constant companion and friend to speak with. My 2am is their 9pm, so if I ever need an ear to listen they are there for me.
With any long distance friendship or relationship it really can be hard sometimes, especially to maintain a “normal” level of friendship when you only see them once or twice a year. I really appreciate all of my long distance friendships and I really wouldn’t have it any other way. It was hard at first, but now I see so much greatness from it.
Do you have any long distance relationships? Do you find it hard or do you like it? Let me know your thoughts on this topic below!