Did you know there are positives in failing? I didn’t realise this until I failed something quite important to me. I needed to pass, but God said no, it’s not time yet. You need to learn what it feels like to fail. We all go through times in our lives when we pass or fail various things in life. Whether it’s a job interview, an important test at school or some training you’re doing. I realise that failing is generally seen as a negative thing, but going through my failure has shown me there can be positives too. Sometimes failing can stop you from going down the wrong path and making the wrong choices. It can be such a great learning curve for us too.
Failing doesn’t always have to be so awful though. Yes, receiving the initial news that you failed can be heart breaking. But it’s not the end of the world. For todays post I wanted to share some wisdom in what I have learnt going through my failure. And share some of the important lessons that come with failing too.
FAILING TEACHES YOU PATIENCE
Anybody that knows me, know thats I have really low patience when it comes to alot of things. I want answers now, and i want to know what the outcome will be. So when I had to wait 3 weeks to find out if I passed or failed, I hated it. I am a firm believer in that there are lessons in everything in life. Sometimes the timing isn’t right just now, but that doesn’t mean you won’t ever pass. It just means you have some learning left to do. And thats what I’m learning. Just because I didn’t pass now, doesn’t mean I never will.
These are the things I have to keep reminding myself. That it’s okay to fail, and that you don’t have to pass and do well every single time. Some of the best inventors and philosophers in the world failed too, and still got to where they are now.
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THERE ARE LESSONS IN FAILURE
I am such a firm believer that there are lessons in every single situation in life. Whether you passed or failed, there will be something you learnt on that journey. For me, it’s not only teaching me patience, it’s also teaching me that I can’t control every aspect of my life. Once I had submitted my work, it was a long 3 week wait to find out the result. In that time, I could have been anxious and worried about the outcome. But I kept reminding myself that there was nothing more I could do. It was out of my hands. I had faith and wanted to pass of course, but knowing it was out of my hands helped me to accept the failure result easier.
The biggest lesson learnt was knowing that I can’t control everything. As much as I would have loved to of passed, it was a great reminder that the course of my life isn’t always in my hands. And honestly, I am glad it isn’t. I don’t want that responsibility.
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FAILING DOESN’T MEAN IT’S THE END
There are so many positives in failing, and a main one is that it doesn’t mean it’s over. Just because you failed doesn’t mean you can’t go on to do great things. It doesn’t mean that you won’t ever get that opportunity again either. Alot of the time we don’t know why these things happen. It could be something you did, or something completely out of your control. But it doesn’t mean its the end of the road.
So many times I have been rejected from work places or failed interviews. But I didn’t let it stop me from enjoying life and trying again. It can be discouraging yes, but it’s not the be all or end all of life. You will move on from it, bigger and better than you were before. Learn from the experience, so that next time you know how to do better.
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I’ve learned far more from failure than I have from success to be honest.
Oh I love this, and it’s so true. There are far more lessons in failing than succeeding!
I’ve failed hundreds of times at various things! I never let it get me down to be honest. Lots of people out there scared of failure but for me it should be embraced a bit more. Its the trying that’s the most important thing.
Absolutely true words
Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader)
Failure isn’t failure if you learn from it. In the words of famous hockey player Wayne Gretzky “You miss 100% of the shots you didn’t take”. Fear of failure stops so many people from even trying. I always ask myself “what’s the worst that could happen?”
I love this 🤎
Success Requires No Explanations *&* Failure Permits No Alibis.
Those who say money isn’t everything was written by a person who didn’t have money!
The one who coined beauty isn’t important came fromthe mind of a person who thought they were ugly!
As a script-writer I made a lot of progress to my dream of doing it full-time and was almost there until due to personal circumstances I had to stop for a few years. Since I started writing again I’ve had rejection after rejection after rejection, a continuous cycle of failures. It got to the point recently I had to decide whether or not to carry on. But I’ve decided to go back to the basics and carry on. And I will improve. The failures have made me stronger. So, if I do break through, it will taste all the sweeter. And it will be the same for you.
I love this Paul. It’s so easy to let rejection and failing stop us from trying. Your time will come!
I can relate to this. Sometimes failing or not getting what you want can be a lesson or protection from something that isn’t right for you. It can be that you need to wait more, learn more or hold off on that thing. Learning to trust in the process and God’s plan for you is a major lesson from failure I think.
Yes it really can. And as I get older I feel this too. A failure doesn’t always mean that I did something wrong. It can mean it just wasn’t meant for me, and I get so much peace from that.
Thank you for this post. I really needed to read this. I have always thought that I’m just one big fat failure in life, about everything and anything. I have never realized this until reading this article. Whenever it’s “my time to shine”, in regards to passing a test, or winning a race, it does not always mean that you HAVE to win or pass every single time with the best score; the bigger thing to to remember is to always try your best at everything you do. My dad has always told us kids to never say “I can’t” or “I quit”. I was 32 when I understood what he meant by that. If you keep quitting, how would you know what you’re good at. If you say that you can’t do something, how do you know if you can’t if you don’t try? Failing at things sometimes can make you a stronger person.
Thank you for sharing that. I’m glad this post could help. Your dad is right, and it must be a dad thing because I always remember my dad saying to me “There is no such thing as can’t
” and its stuck with me. Keep pushing on.
This is so true. Failing is not something that is weird but it happens in life. The aim is to keep trying whilst learning lessons failure teaches you💯
agreed! failing isn’t all bad– there is good and one major reason is that it is a learning lesson. after all no one became successful overnight. people became successful after many trials and errors
One of the hardest things for me to accept has been just because I’ve failed doesn’t mean it’s the end. A lot of what you said here made me think of my friend whom I’m going to share this with, thank you