Often the thought of picking yourself back up after going through something tough is hard. The last thing you want to do is all of the things you used to love. Whenever I’m going through something, its the things I love doing that are the first to go.
Going through a hard time can really make you want to give up and not try again. We have all been there, you may even be there right now. Sometimes it can feel helpless no matter what the situation is. I don’t know what you’re going through, and I may even be preaching to myself here. But you will pick yourself back up, and things will get easier for you.
Picking yourself back up might look different for every person. The chances we are all going through the same thing is slim, but I think there are some main things we can all do to get back to ourselves.
TAKE TIME TO PROCESS
Alot of the time during the process of picking yourself up, we try to rush it. When in reality it could take months or weeks for the process to complete. And one day you’ll be happy and content again and you’ll forget it ever happened. Make time to process what you’re going through. Make time to acknowledge your feelings. This should really be the first step in your healing process.
If you are in the habit of journalling, write down some of your thoughts. Putting pen to paper can really be such a freeing thing to do.
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TRY TO GO BACK TO WHAT YOU LOVE
As I mentioned in the intro, whenever I am in a bad place or am in a funk the first things I lose interest in are the things I love doing. Listening to music, drawing and even blogging. Whenever your heart is not fully in something it can be hard to enjoy it when you’re mentally not feeling the best.
Whenever I have ever picked myself back up I have always gone back to those things I love first. I spend time trying to inspire myself and make myself realise why I loved it so much. Trying out new hobbies aswell can give you a great new focus and perspective.
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TALK ABOUT IT WITH OTHERS
It may seem like an obvious point but alot of people actually forget or don’t want to talk to others about how they’re feeling. When really thats what we should always do. As the saying goes ‘a problem shared is half solved’ and it’s so true. You are not a burden to others. Your feelings are valid and they matter. And if you have good people around you, they will want to listen and speak with you about how you’re feeling.
They may even be able to help you in your process of picking yourself back up too. Friends and family are some of the best (and free) therapists out there!
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WORK ON YOURSELF
Whenever I have been down and trying to pick myself back up again I do alot of self reflection. I ask myself why its happened and what I can learn from it. I also try to work on myself during this process too. Every situation we go through is a learning process and I think we can gain new skills every time.
Working on yourself can look different for everybody aswell. For me, I try to mentally get better from bad situations. I access my own behaviour and reflect on how I could have handled it better.
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What do you do in the process of picking yourself back up? What advice can you give to others going through this process?
I hope these little pieces of advice help you in going through that process. It might be a long hard road, but you can do it.