Do you ever find yourself in situations saying it is what it is? I find myself saying this when I get let down or if plans don’t play out like I thought they would. I mean the whole of 2020 was a big it is what it is wasn’t it? Because of the year we had in 2020 I think we all have this mentality now to some extent. We all had plans that year to do great things and see family and make memories and instead it brought loss, death, heartbreak and isolation. And it really reminded me that we really aren’t in control of our lives. We can control our now but not so much our future.
It is what it is, is really a mentality I am thankful for. It helps in heartbreak, disappointment and when things don’t go our way. It’s allowing us to accept the situations we are in.
Today I wanted to talk about this saying and about how having this mentality has really changed my outlook on many things in life.
DON’T GET YOUR HOPES UP
It’s kind of sad but I don’t really get my hopes up for things anymore. There comes a point where you expect bad things to happen because you are so used to other things getting in the way of the good stuff. Having this mentality has really allowed me to not get my hopes up and become content with whatever outcome. When you get knocked back so many times after being excited for something, it can deflate you. It can make you expect the worst rather than hoping for the best.
Alot of the issue in present time is that as people we are expectant and almost feel entitled for great things. We fail to realise that bad things happen all the time, and we are not entitled to anything. As much as we hope and expect things to go our way, we have to be aware that we don’t set our path in life. Its already been paved for us. [This is what I believe anyway!]
TAKE THE TRIALS AS THEY COME
The ‘is what it is’ mentality has come from trials I have faced in life. I think alot of us are not prepared for what happens in life because we always expect things to be perfect, but from experience we all know thats not the case. Trials will come and we should take them as they come. If we are more prepared for them, we are then better equipped at handling them.
Something I have learnt during this pandemic is to expect the unexpected. And realise that things happen in life but it’s how we handle them that really matters.
Do you have any mottos in life that help you get through?
Do you ever find yourself saying It is what it is?
I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this and how you handle things that come your way!