At some point in all of our lives we will have encountered negative people, but I hope in your life you have encountered more positive than negative. Negativity is just something that comes with life, not everyone is on the same wave length or life path as you. Whether these people are in your work place, in your school class or even online, it’s important that were aware of the types of people who are out there, so that we can look out for them and avoid them. My intention with this post isn’t for it to be all negative. I think my intention here is more of a warning, for us to be all looking out for these types of people so that they don’t get a chance to infiltrate our lives.
The people you surround yourself with have such a great impact on your life, whether you think they do or not. They help to shape who you are, and the saying “you are who you surround yourself with” it’s so true. To lead a positive and fulfilling life, its important that your circle reflects you and your beliefs and morals. Negative people drag you down, they don’t lift you up.
I have complied a list of four types of negative people you should stay away from. There are so many more I could have added, but I want you to add some contributions to the comments section once you have read this post!
If you are not familiar with what a narcissist is, let me take a second to explain. To name a few, these are the traits found in narcissists:
– Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
– Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
– Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
– Exaggerate achievements and talents
If you want to do more of a deep dive into narcissism then please click here, and it will go into more detail.
I have dealt with a few narcissists in my life, and they are not a pleasure to be around. They’re very controlling, want everything their way. They are gossipers, unkind and just generally not nice people. Often the relationships they have with others are really toxic. Alot of narcissists are the way they are due to something happening in their lives. A major life event or someone who hurt them in the past. Hurt people, hurt people, and thats exactly what a narcissistic person does. This of course does not condone their behaviour, there are other avenues and healthy ways to deal with trauma.
I’m sure we have all been around complainers and rolled our eyes every time a moaning sentence comes from their mouth. Being around a complainer is really exhausting and frustrating. Especially when they are moaning about very trivial and unimportant things. They tend to drain our energy and leave us feeling negative after being around them.
I worked in customer service for five years of my life and know first hand how complainers are. And the sad thing is alot of them will remain this way for a long time. Once a complainer usually means always a complainer.
The last thing you want in a friend or relationship is someone who judges you. In any relationship you want to be comfortable in yourself and being who you are around them. A judgemental person never does it from a place of love, its always from a place of negativity. Alot of the times judgemental people are unhappy with themselves, which is why they tend to judge others first.
There are ways to approach someone if what you think they’re doing is wrong, but judging them and casting judgement to them is not the way to do it. You must be perfect yourself first to be able to judge anybody else, and we know that none of us are perfect.
Have you ever had good news and shared it with a friend, only to find that their enthusiasm isn’t matched and their response isn’t as you had hoped? Then this is for you. That sense of disappointment when their face doesn’t light up as yours did really hurts and hits you in the gut. This has happened so many times to me and is probably why I tend to lead a very private life. I never understood why another person, especially a friend or loved one, wouldn’t be happy for you when something good happens. Alot of the time it comes from jealousy, and them wishing it was happening to them. We are all human and feel some type of jealously at some point, but I feel it’s more important to be supportive.
What type of negative people do you tend to hide away from? Have you got any other experiences or lists of traits you could add to this list?
I usually post positive and upbeat content, but I find its important to be real too. Not everything is rainbows and sunshine. We will come in contact with negative people in every walk of life, and I think we need to be aware of those types of people we should stay away from or cut from our lives.